Got this from my friend, didn't realized all these before...
After 2 years of selfless service, a man realized that he has not been promoted, no transfer, no salary increment, no commendation and that his company is not doing anything about it. So, he decided to walk up to his HR Manager one morning and after exchanging greetings, he told his HR his observation. The Manager looked at him, laughed and asked him to sit down, saying:
My friend, you have not worked here for even a day. The man was surprised to hear this, but the manger went on to explain;
Manager: How many days are there in a year?
Man: 365 days and sometimes 366.
Manager: How many hours are there in a day?
Man: 24 hours.
Manager: How long do you work in a day?
Man: 8am to 4pm; 8 hours a day.
Manager: So, what fraction of the day do you work in hours?
Man: One third.
Manager: That’s nice of you! What is one third of 366 days?
Man: 122 (366 x 1/3)
Manager: Do you work on weekends?
Man: No sir.
Manager: How many weekends are there in a year?
Man: 52 Saturdays and 52 Sundays = 104 days.
Managers: if you remove 104 days from 122 days, how many days are left now?
Man: 18 days.
Manager: Ok, I do give you 2 weeks sick leave every year. Remove 14 days from the 18 days left, how many days do you have remaining?
Man: 4 days.
Manager: Do you work on New Year day?
Man: No sir.
Manager: Do you come to work on workers day?
Man: No sir.
Manager: So how many days are left?
Man: 2 days sir.
Manager: Do you come to work on the National Day?
Man: No sir.
Manager: So how many days are left?
Man: 1 day sir.
Manager: Do you work on Christmas day?
Man: No sir.
Manager: so how many days are left?
Man: None sir.
Manager: So what are you claiming?
Man: I have understood sir. I did not realize that I was stealing company money all these days.
Moral of the story – Never go to your HR for help!!!
HR = High Risk
Monday, December 17, 2007
Meaning of Mistakes
- What they actually means!!!!!!!!!!!!!
If a barber makes a mistake, It's a NEW STYLE
If a driver makes a mistake,It is a NEW PATH
If a engineer makes a mistake , It is a NEW VENTURE
If parents makes a mistake, It is a NEW GENERATION
If a politician makes a mistake, It is a NEW LAW
If a scientist makes a mistake, It is a NEW INVENTION
If a tailor makes a mistake, It is a NEW FASHION
If a teacher makes a mistake , It is a NEW THEORY
If our boss makes a mistake, It is a NEW IDEA
If an employee makes a mistake, It is a "Mistake"
If a barber makes a mistake, It's a NEW STYLE
If a driver makes a mistake,It is a NEW PATH
If a engineer makes a mistake , It is a NEW VENTURE
If parents makes a mistake, It is a NEW GENERATION
If a politician makes a mistake, It is a NEW LAW
If a scientist makes a mistake, It is a NEW INVENTION
If a tailor makes a mistake, It is a NEW FASHION
If a teacher makes a mistake , It is a NEW THEORY
If our boss makes a mistake, It is a NEW IDEA
If an employee makes a mistake, It is a "Mistake"
Year End - 2007
It has been a while… since I last wrote.. Almost 2 months now… Nearing Christmas now, in a week’s time. This year flown by so fast that now is another year end.
This year hasn’t been a really good year for me for what I recalled. Just recently, my vein was swollen, so bad till I can’t move my neck and right hand, it’s painful even if I don’t move. Following this closely, my eye lid was kinda swollen. Prior to this, in the later part of this year, a little boy kicked my big toe’s nail off my toe, which was so painful. Until now, my nail has not grown back fully, half way there.
Of course, I have many good stuffs along the way too. I have met a really nice and sweet guy, completed my Bachelor of Communication, gotten a great job currently, and completed the climb at Mount Kinabalu. I have been to many places, this year, mostly in Malaysia (Never travel so much to Malaysia before). I have switched to a competitor company of my previous company, it has been a really good experience here, with excellent training, good senior and approachable managers and it is the market leader in this industry. I’m lucky to be able to get in at the right time. After the 2 long years and finally, I have gotten my degree. Never think that I can do this, but I did! So glad that I did. Been with this nice guy for 7 months now, so far things have been great for both of us, even though there are still quarrels, scolding and anger during this time.
Hence, i wouldn't say it's really a bad year, just a not so good year I guess, epecially for the last quarter of the year.
Looking forward to my Gold Coast, here I come…. Another 10 days to go!!! Counting down now… spent too much these 2 months, with all the packages and Christmas presents, I must have spent a bomb. And after the Gold Coast trip, I need to really, tone down my spending a lot… too much now. Maybe my New Year Resolution should be saving $$$, slim down and train for better temper control.
That’s it for now folks.
This year hasn’t been a really good year for me for what I recalled. Just recently, my vein was swollen, so bad till I can’t move my neck and right hand, it’s painful even if I don’t move. Following this closely, my eye lid was kinda swollen. Prior to this, in the later part of this year, a little boy kicked my big toe’s nail off my toe, which was so painful. Until now, my nail has not grown back fully, half way there.
Of course, I have many good stuffs along the way too. I have met a really nice and sweet guy, completed my Bachelor of Communication, gotten a great job currently, and completed the climb at Mount Kinabalu. I have been to many places, this year, mostly in Malaysia (Never travel so much to Malaysia before). I have switched to a competitor company of my previous company, it has been a really good experience here, with excellent training, good senior and approachable managers and it is the market leader in this industry. I’m lucky to be able to get in at the right time. After the 2 long years and finally, I have gotten my degree. Never think that I can do this, but I did! So glad that I did. Been with this nice guy for 7 months now, so far things have been great for both of us, even though there are still quarrels, scolding and anger during this time.
Hence, i wouldn't say it's really a bad year, just a not so good year I guess, epecially for the last quarter of the year.
Looking forward to my Gold Coast, here I come…. Another 10 days to go!!! Counting down now… spent too much these 2 months, with all the packages and Christmas presents, I must have spent a bomb. And after the Gold Coast trip, I need to really, tone down my spending a lot… too much now. Maybe my New Year Resolution should be saving $$$, slim down and train for better temper control.
That’s it for now folks.
Monday, October 22, 2007
Man and Women
Something interesting i got from friend....
The Silent Treatment
A man and his wife were having some problems at home and were giving each other the silent treatment.
Suddenly, the man realized that the next day, he would need his wife to wake him at 5:00 AM for an early morning business flight.
Not wanting to be the first to break the silence (and LOSE), he wrote on a piece of paper, 'Please wake me at 5:00 AM ' He left it where he knew she would find it.
The next morning, the man woke up, only to discover it was 9:00 AM and he had missed his flight.
Furious, he was about to go and see why his wife hadn't wakened him, when he noticed a piece of paper by the bed.
The paper said, 'It is 5:00 AM. Wake up.'
Men are not equipped for these kinds of contests.
WIFE VS. HUSBAND
A couple drove down a country road for several miles, not saying a word.
An earlier discussion had led to an argument and
neither of them wanted to concede their position.
As they passed a barnyard of mules, goats, and pigs,
the husband asked sarcastically, 'Relatives of yours?'
'Yep,' the wife replied , 'in-laws
WOMEN'S REVENGE
'Cash, check or charge?' I asked, after folding items the woman wished to purchase.
As she fumbled for her wallet I noticed a remote control for a television set in her purse.
'So, do you always carry your TV remote?' I asked.
'No,' she replied, ' but my husband refused to come shopping with me,
and I figured this was the most evil thing I could do to him legally.'
UNDERSTANDING WOMEN
(A MAN'S PERSPECTIVE)
I know I'm not going to understand women.
I'll never understand how you can take boiling hot wax, pour it onto your upper thigh, rip the hair out by the root, and still be afraid of a spider.
W O R D S< style="FONT-SIZE: 13.5pt; COLOR: blue; FONT-FAMILY: 'Comic Sans MS'">
A husband read an article to his wife about how many words women use a day...
30,000 to a man's 15,000.
The wife replied, 'The reason has to be because we have to repeat everything to men...
The husband then turned to his wife and asked, 'What?'
CREATION
A man said t o his wife one day,
'I don't know how you can be so stupid and so beautiful all at the same time. '
The wife responded, 'Allow me to explain.
God made me beautiful so you would be attracted to me;
God made me stupid so I would be attracted to you!
WHO DOES WHAT
A man and his wife were having an argument about who should brew the coffee each morning.
The wife said, 'You should do it, because you get up first, and then we don't have to wait as long to get our coffee.'
The husband said, ' You are in charge of cooking around here and you should do it, because that is your job, and I can just wait for my coffee.'
Wife replies, 'No, you should do it, and besides, it is in the Bible that the man should do the coffee.'
Husband replies, 'I can't believe that, show me.'
So she fetched the Bible, and opened the New Testament and showed him at the top of several pages, that it indeed says..........'HEBREWS'
God may have created man before woman,
but there is always a rough draft before the masterpiece
The Silent Treatment
A man and his wife were having some problems at home and were giving each other the silent treatment.
Suddenly, the man realized that the next day, he would need his wife to wake him at 5:00 AM for an early morning business flight.
Not wanting to be the first to break the silence (and LOSE), he wrote on a piece of paper, 'Please wake me at 5:00 AM ' He left it where he knew she would find it.
The next morning, the man woke up, only to discover it was 9:00 AM and he had missed his flight.
Furious, he was about to go and see why his wife hadn't wakened him, when he noticed a piece of paper by the bed.
The paper said, 'It is 5:00 AM. Wake up.'
Men are not equipped for these kinds of contests.
WIFE VS. HUSBAND
A couple drove down a country road for several miles, not saying a word.
An earlier discussion had led to an argument and
neither of them wanted to concede their position.
As they passed a barnyard of mules, goats, and pigs,
the husband asked sarcastically, 'Relatives of yours?'
'Yep,' the wife replied , 'in-laws
WOMEN'S REVENGE
'Cash, check or charge?' I asked, after folding items the woman wished to purchase.
As she fumbled for her wallet I noticed a remote control for a television set in her purse.
'So, do you always carry your TV remote?' I asked.
'No,' she replied, ' but my husband refused to come shopping with me,
and I figured this was the most evil thing I could do to him legally.'
UNDERSTANDING WOMEN
(A MAN'S PERSPECTIVE)
I know I'm not going to understand women.
I'll never understand how you can take boiling hot wax, pour it onto your upper thigh, rip the hair out by the root, and still be afraid of a spider.
W O R D S< style="FONT-SIZE: 13.5pt; COLOR: blue; FONT-FAMILY: 'Comic Sans MS'">
A husband read an article to his wife about how many words women use a day...
30,000 to a man's 15,000.
The wife replied, 'The reason has to be because we have to repeat everything to men...
The husband then turned to his wife and asked, 'What?'
CREATION
A man said t o his wife one day,
'I don't know how you can be so stupid and so beautiful all at the same time. '
The wife responded, 'Allow me to explain.
God made me beautiful so you would be attracted to me;
God made me stupid so I would be attracted to you!
WHO DOES WHAT
A man and his wife were having an argument about who should brew the coffee each morning.
The wife said, 'You should do it, because you get up first, and then we don't have to wait as long to get our coffee.'
The husband said, ' You are in charge of cooking around here and you should do it, because that is your job, and I can just wait for my coffee.'
Wife replies, 'No, you should do it, and besides, it is in the Bible that the man should do the coffee.'
Husband replies, 'I can't believe that, show me.'
So she fetched the Bible, and opened the New Testament and showed him at the top of several pages, that it indeed says..........'HEBREWS'
God may have created man before woman,
but there is always a rough draft before the masterpiece
Bad Weekend
Finally, I have graduated!!! Glad to be away from the work and also the school (MDIS)… so much of a cock up that they even informed us at the very last minute on Friday that we will not be able to collect our certificate on Saturday. By the way, I did not even receive this email. How ridiculous can this be? The only valid reason why they inform us so late was that they want to prevent us all from refunding or boycotting the whole ceremony. It’s already so expensive to bring guest along ($38/person) and now we can’t even receive our certificates in time…
The graduation gown was so heavy and we have to carry those to Grand Plaza Park Hotel. Next the dressing room was so small and crowded which makes it difficult to get dressed. Following that is the speeches and ceremony. The hi-tea wasn’t fantastic, 3 types of pies, bee hoon, noodle, chicken wings, couple of cakes, fruits and drinks. And it cost $38/person!!! I can have a really nice buffet lunch or dinner at a nice restaurant. It’s really not worth the money. My parents said my brother’s graduation at NTU was so much better, not only the guests were admitted FOC, the food was good and Serangoon Broadway ferry their gown over. Unlike us, we need to collect and return the gown at their studio and their photos were damn expensive. Anyway, I did not engage their photography since we have taken a family portrait few years back and we are given 3 pieces of photographs.
I did not run on Sunday as well. Not a nice week for me huh… too packed to crowd all events on the 2 days. But that’s not the reason why I did not run. When I woke up at 6.15am, my friend, who I have dragged along was sick and it was raining at that time, seems quite heavy, so I didn’t want to make a waste trip down and sit down there to wait for the rain to stop. So I went back to sleep, was hoping that it rain really hard till late morning or it stop right away so I can make a decision. Unfortunately, after I went back to sleep, the rain seems to get smaller and it stops at 7.30am. oh…. That was really a shitty feeling, not here or there. I couldn’t make it since it’s already 7.30am, and I could not participate in this marathon that I really want to… and I lazily laid back onto the bed, feeling exhausted.
Wanted to give Dear just a earful cos I catch him staring at girls again. But after I talk more and more and I realized I have given more than enough chances as this is not the 1st or 2nd time anymore. And this is not just it, there arte other issues which he continues to do it again and again despite multiple quarrels. I told him “usually people give 3 chances but I think I have given you more than that and more than enough. Why? What is wrong here? Is it because I’m not attractive enough or what? Is it my problem or what is it?” He said he can’t explain and it’s his problem, he will not do it again. I find that he just can’t control himself looking at pretty or sexy girls. He knew I was around, so he took multiple stares instead of a long stare, but this is bad enough. I told him I dun trust him anymore as he has been giving empty promises, has been doing the same mistakes again and again, I lost confidence in him and I felt insecure with him. I asked what I should do. Should I give you another chance? And I told him finally this is the last chance, finally one, I talked or scolded anymore, too tired of repeating myself over and over again.
If really, there’s ever again, think I will need some time to cool off now, not been disturb, let him have more time to think what he really wants…
The graduation gown was so heavy and we have to carry those to Grand Plaza Park Hotel. Next the dressing room was so small and crowded which makes it difficult to get dressed. Following that is the speeches and ceremony. The hi-tea wasn’t fantastic, 3 types of pies, bee hoon, noodle, chicken wings, couple of cakes, fruits and drinks. And it cost $38/person!!! I can have a really nice buffet lunch or dinner at a nice restaurant. It’s really not worth the money. My parents said my brother’s graduation at NTU was so much better, not only the guests were admitted FOC, the food was good and Serangoon Broadway ferry their gown over. Unlike us, we need to collect and return the gown at their studio and their photos were damn expensive. Anyway, I did not engage their photography since we have taken a family portrait few years back and we are given 3 pieces of photographs.
I did not run on Sunday as well. Not a nice week for me huh… too packed to crowd all events on the 2 days. But that’s not the reason why I did not run. When I woke up at 6.15am, my friend, who I have dragged along was sick and it was raining at that time, seems quite heavy, so I didn’t want to make a waste trip down and sit down there to wait for the rain to stop. So I went back to sleep, was hoping that it rain really hard till late morning or it stop right away so I can make a decision. Unfortunately, after I went back to sleep, the rain seems to get smaller and it stops at 7.30am. oh…. That was really a shitty feeling, not here or there. I couldn’t make it since it’s already 7.30am, and I could not participate in this marathon that I really want to… and I lazily laid back onto the bed, feeling exhausted.
Wanted to give Dear just a earful cos I catch him staring at girls again. But after I talk more and more and I realized I have given more than enough chances as this is not the 1st or 2nd time anymore. And this is not just it, there arte other issues which he continues to do it again and again despite multiple quarrels. I told him “usually people give 3 chances but I think I have given you more than that and more than enough. Why? What is wrong here? Is it because I’m not attractive enough or what? Is it my problem or what is it?” He said he can’t explain and it’s his problem, he will not do it again. I find that he just can’t control himself looking at pretty or sexy girls. He knew I was around, so he took multiple stares instead of a long stare, but this is bad enough. I told him I dun trust him anymore as he has been giving empty promises, has been doing the same mistakes again and again, I lost confidence in him and I felt insecure with him. I asked what I should do. Should I give you another chance? And I told him finally this is the last chance, finally one, I talked or scolded anymore, too tired of repeating myself over and over again.
If really, there’s ever again, think I will need some time to cool off now, not been disturb, let him have more time to think what he really wants…
Tuesday, October 16, 2007
Great Eastern 10km Women Run
The Great Eastern Women 10km run is drawing nearer, so is my convocation which is this Saturday.
Has just collected my graduation gown last evening, so excited… the last and only time I remembered wearing a graduation gown taking photographs was after my kindergarten, which was almost 20 years ago. A pity I have thrown that away, otherwise will be able to do a comparison on how much I have grown. When I tried on the gown, I just felt a little weird and glad at the same time, to be able to wear the graduation gown. Never thought that I would have worn that in my life as I’m always telling myself that I will only study till diploma, since I hate studying and my results wasn’t great. But in today’s world, being a diploma graduate don’t bring you anywhere, at least a degree paper qualification is necessary, regardless of what you study or whether if it’s from a recognized university.
That’s the reason I decided to further my studies, for better prospect and better future. Without a boyfriend does helps a little for having more personal time and not being distracted from work and studies. Well, but part of it is my then manager. She encouraged everyone in the group (our little lunch kakis) to go study, to aim for promotion and better salary. And finally, here I am, wearing the graduation gown, posing for photographs, going up the stage, collecting my Bachelor. Woahhooo… But it’s real expensive as it cost $38 to bring one guest, just for hi-tea. It’s just too expensive, but oh well, it’s once (and only) in a lifetime, so I better bring my parents along for some pride and laughter.
Oh and I was talking about the Great Eastern (GE) run, am supposed to be excited over the all women’s run…. But the organizing is just so bad. We had the invitation to sign up for the run via email for us policy holder. But not only do we not receive frequent updates on the events, we are also not told via email about the collection dates which are last Friday and Saturday (12 & 13 October 07). I keep thinking that can’t be it, it just this Sunday and I am still not told of the collection of the race pack??? I went to the GE website to check yesterday and to my horror, the collection is over. The hotline personnel told me that an email and sms will be sent to us (those that they missed) by noon time for another collection date, but till now, I still have not receive any sms (have not check my email but this is so urgent as the deadline is so tight, should be informed through sms, shouldn’t they?). But I did email to the corporate communication team that they should not inconvenient us anymore, by ‘forcing’ into collecting on just one alternative date at such short deadline (the run is just this Sunday!!!) due to their overlook. And I was told also that a sms was just sent on Thursday (11 Oct) on the collection dates, which is just the next 2 days. I mean, what kind of organizing is that? Unfortunately, I had also asked my friend along, who is not a GE policy holder, this really shows the bad organizing by GE. Furthermore, this is the 2nd GE women run, so shouldn’t all these expected hiccups be avoided? Hopefully, I will get a satisfactory answer tonight when I checked my email. And I hope that on the race day itself, there will be no cock up…
I have joined the Standard Chartered Run in 2005 (I think 2005 is also their 2nd run), and everything is so well organized. They sent frequent updates on the event plan, outline and even advanced notice on the collection dates. During the race itself, the runners were well organized by the flag off time and etc. this will be my 1st and my last time signing up for the GE women run.
Went to a wedding dinner on Sunday with Dear, it’s his friends. I heard that the groom’s brother owe many people including Dear a lot of money and has run away. Expectedly, he did not turn up for the wedding. Anyway, met a group of his friends, where they used to hang out together, and all these friends, are one of his friend’s friend. I often laugh at him jokingly that he does not have many friends, all his friends are all that one friend’s friends.
Things have been great so far, except for his speeding and stopping at a fast speed during the weekend. Not sure about the girls issue though, I think he tries hard not to look at them……. well, time will tell.
Has just collected my graduation gown last evening, so excited… the last and only time I remembered wearing a graduation gown taking photographs was after my kindergarten, which was almost 20 years ago. A pity I have thrown that away, otherwise will be able to do a comparison on how much I have grown. When I tried on the gown, I just felt a little weird and glad at the same time, to be able to wear the graduation gown. Never thought that I would have worn that in my life as I’m always telling myself that I will only study till diploma, since I hate studying and my results wasn’t great. But in today’s world, being a diploma graduate don’t bring you anywhere, at least a degree paper qualification is necessary, regardless of what you study or whether if it’s from a recognized university.
That’s the reason I decided to further my studies, for better prospect and better future. Without a boyfriend does helps a little for having more personal time and not being distracted from work and studies. Well, but part of it is my then manager. She encouraged everyone in the group (our little lunch kakis) to go study, to aim for promotion and better salary. And finally, here I am, wearing the graduation gown, posing for photographs, going up the stage, collecting my Bachelor. Woahhooo… But it’s real expensive as it cost $38 to bring one guest, just for hi-tea. It’s just too expensive, but oh well, it’s once (and only) in a lifetime, so I better bring my parents along for some pride and laughter.
Oh and I was talking about the Great Eastern (GE) run, am supposed to be excited over the all women’s run…. But the organizing is just so bad. We had the invitation to sign up for the run via email for us policy holder. But not only do we not receive frequent updates on the events, we are also not told via email about the collection dates which are last Friday and Saturday (12 & 13 October 07). I keep thinking that can’t be it, it just this Sunday and I am still not told of the collection of the race pack??? I went to the GE website to check yesterday and to my horror, the collection is over. The hotline personnel told me that an email and sms will be sent to us (those that they missed) by noon time for another collection date, but till now, I still have not receive any sms (have not check my email but this is so urgent as the deadline is so tight, should be informed through sms, shouldn’t they?). But I did email to the corporate communication team that they should not inconvenient us anymore, by ‘forcing’ into collecting on just one alternative date at such short deadline (the run is just this Sunday!!!) due to their overlook. And I was told also that a sms was just sent on Thursday (11 Oct) on the collection dates, which is just the next 2 days. I mean, what kind of organizing is that? Unfortunately, I had also asked my friend along, who is not a GE policy holder, this really shows the bad organizing by GE. Furthermore, this is the 2nd GE women run, so shouldn’t all these expected hiccups be avoided? Hopefully, I will get a satisfactory answer tonight when I checked my email. And I hope that on the race day itself, there will be no cock up…
I have joined the Standard Chartered Run in 2005 (I think 2005 is also their 2nd run), and everything is so well organized. They sent frequent updates on the event plan, outline and even advanced notice on the collection dates. During the race itself, the runners were well organized by the flag off time and etc. this will be my 1st and my last time signing up for the GE women run.
Went to a wedding dinner on Sunday with Dear, it’s his friends. I heard that the groom’s brother owe many people including Dear a lot of money and has run away. Expectedly, he did not turn up for the wedding. Anyway, met a group of his friends, where they used to hang out together, and all these friends, are one of his friend’s friend. I often laugh at him jokingly that he does not have many friends, all his friends are all that one friend’s friends.
Things have been great so far, except for his speeding and stopping at a fast speed during the weekend. Not sure about the girls issue though, I think he tries hard not to look at them……. well, time will tell.
Tuesday, October 2, 2007
What The Modern Woman Wants
It's worthwhile taking 5 mins to read this essay. This really applies to the world today, the youngsters today that are having this attitude and mentality. Well, but I think I did read this or seen this somewhere.
A 15-YEAR-OLD Singaporean, competing against 16- to 18-year-olds, has won the top prize in a writing contest that drew 5,300 entries from 52 countries.
In the annual Commonwealth Essay Competition, Amanda Chong of Raffles Girls' School (Secondary) chose to compete in the older category and won with a piece on the restlessness of modern life.
Her short story, titled What The Modern Woman Wants, focused on the conflict in values between an old lady and her independent-minded daughter.
'Through my story, I attempted to convey the unique East-versus-West struggles and generation gaps that I felt were characteristic of young people in my country,' said Amanda, who likes drama, history and literature and wants to become a lawyer and a politician.
Chief examiner Charles Kemp called her piece a 'powerfully moving and ironical critique of modern restlessness and its potentially cruel consequences'. The writing is fluent and assured, with excellent use of dialogue.
Amanda gets (S$1,590). A Singaporean last won the top prize in 2000, said Britain's Royal Commonwealth Society, which has been organising the competition since 1883. Singaporeans also came in second in the 14- to 15-year-old category, and fourth in the under-12s. Other winners included students from Australia, Canada and South Africa. =========================================================
What the Modern Woman Wants
By Amanda Chong Wei-Zhen
The old woman sat in the backseat of the magenta convertible as it careened down the highway, clutching tightly to the plastic bag on her lap, afraid it may be kidnapped by the wind. She was not used to such speed, with trembling hands she pulled the seatbelt tighter but was careful not to touch the patent leather seats with her callused fingers, her daughter had warned her not to dirty it, 'Fingerprints show very clearly on white, Ma.'
Her daughter, Bee Choo, was driving and talking on her sleek silver mobile phone using big words the old woman could barely understand. 'Finance' 'Liquidation' 'Assets' 'Investments'... Her voice was crisp and important and had an unfamiliar lilt to it. Her Bee Choo sounded like one of those foreign girls on television. She was speaking in an American accent.
The old lady clucked her tongue in disapproval. 'I absolutely cannot have this. We have to sell!' Her daughter exclaimed agitatedly as she stepped on the accelerator; her perfectly manicured fingernails gripping onto the steering wheel in irritation.
'I can't DEAL with this anymore!' she yelled as she clicked the phone shut and hurled it angrily toward the backseat. The mobile phone hit the old woman on the forehead and nestled soundlessly into her lap. She calmly picked it up and handed it to her daughter.
'Sorry, Ma,' she said, losing the American pretence and switching to Mandarin. 'I have a big client in America. There have been a lot of problems.' The old lady nodded knowingly. Her daughter was big and important.
Bee Choo stared at her mother from the rear view window, wondering what she was thinking. Her mother's wrinkled countenance always carried the same cryptic look.
The phone began to ring again, an artificially cheerful digital tune, which broke the awkward silence. 'Hello, Beatrice! Yes, this is Elaine.' Elaine. The old woman cringed. I didn't name her Elaine. She remembered her daughter telling her, how an English name was very important for 'networking', Chinese ones being easily forgotten.
'Oh no, I can't see you for lunch today. I have to take the ancient relic to the temple for her weird daily prayer ritual.'
Ancient Relic. The old woman understood perfectly it was referring to her. Her daughter always assumed that her mother's silence meant she did not comprehend.
'Yes, I know! My car seats will be reeking of joss sticks!' The old woman pursed her lips tightly, her hands gripping her plastic bag in defence. The car curved smoothly into the temple courtyard. It looked almost garish next to the dull sheen of the ageing temple's roof. The old woman got out of the back seat, and made her unhurried way to the main hall.
Her daughter stepped out of the car in her business suit and stilettos and reapplied her lipstick as she made her brisk way to her mother's side.
'Ma, I'll wait outside. I have an important phone call to make,' she said, not bothering to hide her disgust at the pungent fumes of incense.
The old lady hobbled into the temple hall and lit a joss stick, she knelt down solemnly and whispered her now familiar daily prayer to the Gods.
Thank you God of the Sky, you have given my daughter luck all these years. Everything I prayed for, you have given her. She has everything a young woman in this world could possibly want. She has a big house with a swimming pool, a maid to help her, as she is too clumsy to sew or cook.
Her love life has been blessed; she is engaged to a rich and handsome angmoh man. Her company is now the top financial firm and even men listen to what she says. She lives the perfect life. You have given her everything except happiness. I ask that the gods be merciful to her even if she has lost her roots while reaping the harvest of success.
What you see is not true, she is a filial daughter to me. She gives me a room in her big house and provides well for me. She is rude to me only because I affect her happiness. A young woman does not want to be hindered by her old mother. It is my fault.
The old lady prayed so hard that tears welled up in her eyes. Finally, with her head bowed in reverence she planted the half-burnt joss stick into an urn of smouldering ashes.
She bowed once more. The old woman had been praying for her daughter for thirty-two years. When her stomach was round like a melon, she came to the temple and prayed that it was a son.
Then the time was ripe and the baby slipped out of her womb, bawling and adorable with fat thighs and pink cheeks, but unmistakably, a girl. Her husband had kicked and punched her for producing a useless baby who could not work or carry the family name.
Still, the woman returned to the temple with her new-born girl tied to her waist in a sarong and prayed that her daughter would grow up and have everything she ever wanted. Her husband left her and she prayed that her daughter would never have to depend on a man.
She prayed every day that her daughter would be a great woman, the woman that she, meek and uneducated, could never become. A woman with nengkan; the ability to do anything she set her mind to. A woman who commanded respect in the hearts of men. When she opened her mouth to speak, precious pearls would fall out and men would listen.
She will not be like me, the woman prayed as she watched her daughter grow up and drift away from her, speaking a language she scarcely understood. She watched her daughter transform from a quiet girl, to one who openly defied her, calling her laotu; old-fashioned. She wanted her mother to be 'modern', a word so new there was no Chinese word for it.
Now her daughter was too clever for her and the old woman wondered why she had prayed like that. The gods had been faithful to her persistent prayer, but the wealth and success that poured forth so richly had buried the girl's roots and now she stood, faceless, with no identity, bound to the soil of her ancestors by only a string of origami banknotes.
Her daughter had forgotten her mother's values. Her wants were so ephemeral; that of a modern woman. Power, Wealth, access to the best fashion boutiques, and yet her daughter had not found true happiness. The old woman knew that you could find happiness with much less. When her daughter left the earth everything she had would count for nothing. People would look to her legacy and say that she was a great woman, but she would be forgotten once the wind blows over, like the ashes of burnt paper convertibles and mansions.
The old woman wished she could go back and erase all her big hopes and prayers for her daughter; now she had only one want: That her daughter be happy. She looked out of the temple gate. She saw her daughter speaking on the phone, her brow furrowed with anger and worry. Being at the top is not good, the woman thought, there is only one way to go from there - down.
The old woman carefully unfolded the plastic bag and spread out a packet of beehoon in front of the altar. Her daughter often mocked her for worshipping porcelain Gods. How could she pray to them so faithfully and expect pieces of ceramic to fly to her aid? But her daughter had her own gods too, idols of wealth, success and power that she was enslaved to and worshipped every day of her life.
Every day was a quest for the idols, and the idols she worshipped counted for nothing in eternity. All the wants her daughter had would slowly suck the life out of her and leave her, an empty soulless shell at the altar.
The old lady watched her joss tick. The dull heat had left a teetering grey stem that was on the danger of collapsing. Modern woman nowadays, the old lady sighed in resignation, as she bowed to the east one final time to end her ritual. Modern woman nowadays want so much that they lose their souls and wonder why they cannot find it.
Her joss stick disintegrated into a soft grey powder. She met her daughter outside the temple, the same look of worry and frustration was etched on her daughter's face. An empty expression, as if she was ploughing through the soil of her wants looking for the one thing that would sow the seeds of happiness.
They climbed into the convertible in silence and her daughter drove along the highway, this time not as fast as she had done before.
'Ma,' Bee Choo finally said. 'I don't know how to put this. Mark and I have been talking about it and we plan to move out of the big house. The property market is good now, and we managed to get a buyer willing to pay seven million for it. We decided we'd prefer a cosier penthouse apartment instead. We found a perfect one in Orchard Road. Once we move in to our apartment we plan to get rid of the maid, so we can have more space to ourselves...'
The old woman nodded knowingly. Bee Choo swallowed hard. 'We'd get someone to come in to do the housework and we can eat out - but once the maid is gone, there won't be anyone to look after you. You will be awfully lonely at home and, besides that, the apartment is rather small. There won't be space. We thought about it for a long time, and we decided the best thing for you is if you moved to a Home. There's one near Hougang - it's a Christian home, a very nice one.'
The old woman did not raise an eyebrow. 'I've been there, the matron is willing to take you in. It's beautiful with gardens and lots of old people to keep you company! I hardly have time for you, you'd be happier there.'
'You'd be happier there, really.' Her daughter repeated as if to affirm herself. This time the old woman had no plastic bag of food offerings to cling tightly to; she bit her lip and fastened her seat belt, as if it would protect her from a daughter who did not want her anymore. She sunk deep into the leather seat, letting her shoulders sag, and her fingers trace the white seat.
'Ma?' her daughter asked, searching the rear view window for her mother. 'Is everything okay?' What had to be done, had to be done. 'Yes,' she said firmly, louder than she intended, 'if it will make you happy,' she added more quietly.
'It's for you, Ma! You'll be happier there. You can move there tomorrow, I already got the maid to pack your things.' Elaine said triumphantly, mentally ticking yet another item off her agenda. '
I knew everything would be fine.'
Elaine smiled widely; she felt liberated. Perhaps getting rid of her mother would make her happier. She had thought about it. It seemed the only hindrance in her pursuit of happiness. She was happy now. She had everything a modern woman ever wanted; Money, Status, Career, Love,Power and now, Freedom, without her mother and her old-fashioned ways to weigh her down...
Yes, she was free. Her phone buzzed urgently, she picked it up and read the message, still beaming from ear to ear. 'Stocks 10% increase!'
Yes, things were definitely beginning to look up for her... And while searching for the meaning of life in the luminance of her hand phone screen, the old woman in the backseat became invisible, and she did not see the tears.
A 15-YEAR-OLD Singaporean, competing against 16- to 18-year-olds, has won the top prize in a writing contest that drew 5,300 entries from 52 countries.
In the annual Commonwealth Essay Competition, Amanda Chong of Raffles Girls' School (Secondary) chose to compete in the older category and won with a piece on the restlessness of modern life.
Her short story, titled What The Modern Woman Wants, focused on the conflict in values between an old lady and her independent-minded daughter.
'Through my story, I attempted to convey the unique East-versus-West struggles and generation gaps that I felt were characteristic of young people in my country,' said Amanda, who likes drama, history and literature and wants to become a lawyer and a politician.
Chief examiner Charles Kemp called her piece a 'powerfully moving and ironical critique of modern restlessness and its potentially cruel consequences'. The writing is fluent and assured, with excellent use of dialogue.
Amanda gets (S$1,590). A Singaporean last won the top prize in 2000, said Britain's Royal Commonwealth Society, which has been organising the competition since 1883. Singaporeans also came in second in the 14- to 15-year-old category, and fourth in the under-12s. Other winners included students from Australia, Canada and South Africa. =========================================================
What the Modern Woman Wants
By Amanda Chong Wei-Zhen
The old woman sat in the backseat of the magenta convertible as it careened down the highway, clutching tightly to the plastic bag on her lap, afraid it may be kidnapped by the wind. She was not used to such speed, with trembling hands she pulled the seatbelt tighter but was careful not to touch the patent leather seats with her callused fingers, her daughter had warned her not to dirty it, 'Fingerprints show very clearly on white, Ma.'
Her daughter, Bee Choo, was driving and talking on her sleek silver mobile phone using big words the old woman could barely understand. 'Finance' 'Liquidation' 'Assets' 'Investments'... Her voice was crisp and important and had an unfamiliar lilt to it. Her Bee Choo sounded like one of those foreign girls on television. She was speaking in an American accent.
The old lady clucked her tongue in disapproval. 'I absolutely cannot have this. We have to sell!' Her daughter exclaimed agitatedly as she stepped on the accelerator; her perfectly manicured fingernails gripping onto the steering wheel in irritation.
'I can't DEAL with this anymore!' she yelled as she clicked the phone shut and hurled it angrily toward the backseat. The mobile phone hit the old woman on the forehead and nestled soundlessly into her lap. She calmly picked it up and handed it to her daughter.
'Sorry, Ma,' she said, losing the American pretence and switching to Mandarin. 'I have a big client in America. There have been a lot of problems.' The old lady nodded knowingly. Her daughter was big and important.
Bee Choo stared at her mother from the rear view window, wondering what she was thinking. Her mother's wrinkled countenance always carried the same cryptic look.
The phone began to ring again, an artificially cheerful digital tune, which broke the awkward silence. 'Hello, Beatrice! Yes, this is Elaine.' Elaine. The old woman cringed. I didn't name her Elaine. She remembered her daughter telling her, how an English name was very important for 'networking', Chinese ones being easily forgotten.
'Oh no, I can't see you for lunch today. I have to take the ancient relic to the temple for her weird daily prayer ritual.'
Ancient Relic. The old woman understood perfectly it was referring to her. Her daughter always assumed that her mother's silence meant she did not comprehend.
'Yes, I know! My car seats will be reeking of joss sticks!' The old woman pursed her lips tightly, her hands gripping her plastic bag in defence. The car curved smoothly into the temple courtyard. It looked almost garish next to the dull sheen of the ageing temple's roof. The old woman got out of the back seat, and made her unhurried way to the main hall.
Her daughter stepped out of the car in her business suit and stilettos and reapplied her lipstick as she made her brisk way to her mother's side.
'Ma, I'll wait outside. I have an important phone call to make,' she said, not bothering to hide her disgust at the pungent fumes of incense.
The old lady hobbled into the temple hall and lit a joss stick, she knelt down solemnly and whispered her now familiar daily prayer to the Gods.
Thank you God of the Sky, you have given my daughter luck all these years. Everything I prayed for, you have given her. She has everything a young woman in this world could possibly want. She has a big house with a swimming pool, a maid to help her, as she is too clumsy to sew or cook.
Her love life has been blessed; she is engaged to a rich and handsome angmoh man. Her company is now the top financial firm and even men listen to what she says. She lives the perfect life. You have given her everything except happiness. I ask that the gods be merciful to her even if she has lost her roots while reaping the harvest of success.
What you see is not true, she is a filial daughter to me. She gives me a room in her big house and provides well for me. She is rude to me only because I affect her happiness. A young woman does not want to be hindered by her old mother. It is my fault.
The old lady prayed so hard that tears welled up in her eyes. Finally, with her head bowed in reverence she planted the half-burnt joss stick into an urn of smouldering ashes.
She bowed once more. The old woman had been praying for her daughter for thirty-two years. When her stomach was round like a melon, she came to the temple and prayed that it was a son.
Then the time was ripe and the baby slipped out of her womb, bawling and adorable with fat thighs and pink cheeks, but unmistakably, a girl. Her husband had kicked and punched her for producing a useless baby who could not work or carry the family name.
Still, the woman returned to the temple with her new-born girl tied to her waist in a sarong and prayed that her daughter would grow up and have everything she ever wanted. Her husband left her and she prayed that her daughter would never have to depend on a man.
She prayed every day that her daughter would be a great woman, the woman that she, meek and uneducated, could never become. A woman with nengkan; the ability to do anything she set her mind to. A woman who commanded respect in the hearts of men. When she opened her mouth to speak, precious pearls would fall out and men would listen.
She will not be like me, the woman prayed as she watched her daughter grow up and drift away from her, speaking a language she scarcely understood. She watched her daughter transform from a quiet girl, to one who openly defied her, calling her laotu; old-fashioned. She wanted her mother to be 'modern', a word so new there was no Chinese word for it.
Now her daughter was too clever for her and the old woman wondered why she had prayed like that. The gods had been faithful to her persistent prayer, but the wealth and success that poured forth so richly had buried the girl's roots and now she stood, faceless, with no identity, bound to the soil of her ancestors by only a string of origami banknotes.
Her daughter had forgotten her mother's values. Her wants were so ephemeral; that of a modern woman. Power, Wealth, access to the best fashion boutiques, and yet her daughter had not found true happiness. The old woman knew that you could find happiness with much less. When her daughter left the earth everything she had would count for nothing. People would look to her legacy and say that she was a great woman, but she would be forgotten once the wind blows over, like the ashes of burnt paper convertibles and mansions.
The old woman wished she could go back and erase all her big hopes and prayers for her daughter; now she had only one want: That her daughter be happy. She looked out of the temple gate. She saw her daughter speaking on the phone, her brow furrowed with anger and worry. Being at the top is not good, the woman thought, there is only one way to go from there - down.
The old woman carefully unfolded the plastic bag and spread out a packet of beehoon in front of the altar. Her daughter often mocked her for worshipping porcelain Gods. How could she pray to them so faithfully and expect pieces of ceramic to fly to her aid? But her daughter had her own gods too, idols of wealth, success and power that she was enslaved to and worshipped every day of her life.
Every day was a quest for the idols, and the idols she worshipped counted for nothing in eternity. All the wants her daughter had would slowly suck the life out of her and leave her, an empty soulless shell at the altar.
The old lady watched her joss tick. The dull heat had left a teetering grey stem that was on the danger of collapsing. Modern woman nowadays, the old lady sighed in resignation, as she bowed to the east one final time to end her ritual. Modern woman nowadays want so much that they lose their souls and wonder why they cannot find it.
Her joss stick disintegrated into a soft grey powder. She met her daughter outside the temple, the same look of worry and frustration was etched on her daughter's face. An empty expression, as if she was ploughing through the soil of her wants looking for the one thing that would sow the seeds of happiness.
They climbed into the convertible in silence and her daughter drove along the highway, this time not as fast as she had done before.
'Ma,' Bee Choo finally said. 'I don't know how to put this. Mark and I have been talking about it and we plan to move out of the big house. The property market is good now, and we managed to get a buyer willing to pay seven million for it. We decided we'd prefer a cosier penthouse apartment instead. We found a perfect one in Orchard Road. Once we move in to our apartment we plan to get rid of the maid, so we can have more space to ourselves...'
The old woman nodded knowingly. Bee Choo swallowed hard. 'We'd get someone to come in to do the housework and we can eat out - but once the maid is gone, there won't be anyone to look after you. You will be awfully lonely at home and, besides that, the apartment is rather small. There won't be space. We thought about it for a long time, and we decided the best thing for you is if you moved to a Home. There's one near Hougang - it's a Christian home, a very nice one.'
The old woman did not raise an eyebrow. 'I've been there, the matron is willing to take you in. It's beautiful with gardens and lots of old people to keep you company! I hardly have time for you, you'd be happier there.'
'You'd be happier there, really.' Her daughter repeated as if to affirm herself. This time the old woman had no plastic bag of food offerings to cling tightly to; she bit her lip and fastened her seat belt, as if it would protect her from a daughter who did not want her anymore. She sunk deep into the leather seat, letting her shoulders sag, and her fingers trace the white seat.
'Ma?' her daughter asked, searching the rear view window for her mother. 'Is everything okay?' What had to be done, had to be done. 'Yes,' she said firmly, louder than she intended, 'if it will make you happy,' she added more quietly.
'It's for you, Ma! You'll be happier there. You can move there tomorrow, I already got the maid to pack your things.' Elaine said triumphantly, mentally ticking yet another item off her agenda. '
I knew everything would be fine.'
Elaine smiled widely; she felt liberated. Perhaps getting rid of her mother would make her happier. She had thought about it. It seemed the only hindrance in her pursuit of happiness. She was happy now. She had everything a modern woman ever wanted; Money, Status, Career, Love,Power and now, Freedom, without her mother and her old-fashioned ways to weigh her down...
Yes, she was free. Her phone buzzed urgently, she picked it up and read the message, still beaming from ear to ear. 'Stocks 10% increase!'
Yes, things were definitely beginning to look up for her... And while searching for the meaning of life in the luminance of her hand phone screen, the old woman in the backseat became invisible, and she did not see the tears.
Back from Genting and 1st Day Riding After More Than a Month
Whoahh!!! Woshhh!! Finally, get to ride after about 6 weeks. After I moved to my new office/ company, I did not ride at all till this morning. It feels so good and shiok with the wind blowing on me when I zoom through the many cars in CTE. I still prefer riding better than driving (except for rainy days and days where the sun is extremely hot and also the hot air in the tunnel in the early evening) as I do not have very good judgment and it’s cheap! At least I’m on top of everything when I ride. Yes, I know, it’s dangerous… going to sell it off if I can find a buyer who offer me a good price. But have not done any advertisement yet, waiting for Dear to help me take pictures and post it to sell, think it will fetch a better price. After such a long time not riding, I noticed that the handle bar seems moldy, not sure what I can do to remove or do I have to change that. Or I may also bring to my workshop to see if they are interested to buy over, but should be at a much lower price though.
Well, anyway if I don’t sell, the bike will be rotting at home and I will continue to pay for the road tax and car park. At least Dear is fetching me on most days back home, so I can do without the bike these days. He will try to come by my office to pick me before we proceed to our destination.
Anyway, just came back on Sunday from the short weekend getaway. However, luck is not good, hasn’t been able to win the past few times (including this time) that we went. Turn out to be quite an expensive trip in the end, though we can get a all paid for trips and the Australia one as well. But anyway, we have decided not to go up anymore this year since luck is not on our side. We may go elsewhere for November long weekend since we are not going up to Genting anymore. Maybe Batam, Tioman or Bintan. Somewhere near and not too expensive.
We managed to do many activities this time with his colleague and wife. We went to the Theme Park and taken the Asia longest cable car on Saturday and of course to the Casino for the whole evening and night. We did not do much on Friday, just bring them to the First World Casino to take a look before we went to bed. We left after breakfast on Sunday morning. We had lunch at A&W again on our way back. We stopped by the Holiday Inn for some shopping, the snacks and dvds. We left about evening time and the jam started way before the custom. We queued for almost 3 hours and by the time we reached his place was already 8pm.
We quarreled again before he sent me back home. I was a little piss at the Holiday Inn cos he did not see where I went or leave with me to walk around while his colleague was shopping in shops where we are not really interested. Of course I will not walk too far out with him in case his colleague can’t find him. When we finally got up the car, I was quiet throughout the whole journey from the car wash to the custom. But I felt that he wasn’t at all concern about me, he was busy navigating his colleague, which is not necessary at many points. He didn’t really bother that I kept quiet throughout and he didn’t even ask about me except once. He did not even know that I am unhappy or tired, he didn’t even know what I will show in terms of my communication style, attitude or eye contact when I’m angry or unhappy. However, sometimes, I know that he knew I was angry but he just keeps quiet, hopeful that I will be ok automatically after a while.
He apologized for not caring for me earlier and I screamed a little at times. He hold me tied at one point and cried (I was harsh and hard, refuse to relent as I was very unhappy, he left me quiet for like hours in the car). I soften and cried when I saw him tearing, I just couldn’t help it. The tears just flow automatically. This is the second time that he cried, not sure if he cried because I scolded him harshly or because he feels bad about what has happened???
I know he’s nice, but sometimes he just don’t care or sensitive enough. After 5 months and he still know my likes and dislikes, what I like to hear when I’m angry and what I hate to hear when I’m angry and what to do or what not to do when I’m angry. Sometimes, it’s sad that he doesn’t know all these.
Well, anyway if I don’t sell, the bike will be rotting at home and I will continue to pay for the road tax and car park. At least Dear is fetching me on most days back home, so I can do without the bike these days. He will try to come by my office to pick me before we proceed to our destination.
Anyway, just came back on Sunday from the short weekend getaway. However, luck is not good, hasn’t been able to win the past few times (including this time) that we went. Turn out to be quite an expensive trip in the end, though we can get a all paid for trips and the Australia one as well. But anyway, we have decided not to go up anymore this year since luck is not on our side. We may go elsewhere for November long weekend since we are not going up to Genting anymore. Maybe Batam, Tioman or Bintan. Somewhere near and not too expensive.
We managed to do many activities this time with his colleague and wife. We went to the Theme Park and taken the Asia longest cable car on Saturday and of course to the Casino for the whole evening and night. We did not do much on Friday, just bring them to the First World Casino to take a look before we went to bed. We left after breakfast on Sunday morning. We had lunch at A&W again on our way back. We stopped by the Holiday Inn for some shopping, the snacks and dvds. We left about evening time and the jam started way before the custom. We queued for almost 3 hours and by the time we reached his place was already 8pm.
We quarreled again before he sent me back home. I was a little piss at the Holiday Inn cos he did not see where I went or leave with me to walk around while his colleague was shopping in shops where we are not really interested. Of course I will not walk too far out with him in case his colleague can’t find him. When we finally got up the car, I was quiet throughout the whole journey from the car wash to the custom. But I felt that he wasn’t at all concern about me, he was busy navigating his colleague, which is not necessary at many points. He didn’t really bother that I kept quiet throughout and he didn’t even ask about me except once. He did not even know that I am unhappy or tired, he didn’t even know what I will show in terms of my communication style, attitude or eye contact when I’m angry or unhappy. However, sometimes, I know that he knew I was angry but he just keeps quiet, hopeful that I will be ok automatically after a while.
He apologized for not caring for me earlier and I screamed a little at times. He hold me tied at one point and cried (I was harsh and hard, refuse to relent as I was very unhappy, he left me quiet for like hours in the car). I soften and cried when I saw him tearing, I just couldn’t help it. The tears just flow automatically. This is the second time that he cried, not sure if he cried because I scolded him harshly or because he feels bad about what has happened???
I know he’s nice, but sometimes he just don’t care or sensitive enough. After 5 months and he still know my likes and dislikes, what I like to hear when I’m angry and what I hate to hear when I’m angry and what to do or what not to do when I’m angry. Sometimes, it’s sad that he doesn’t know all these.
Thursday, September 27, 2007
Weekend Coming
It’s Thursday now, nearing the weekend again. Whoahaha… excellent! Genting tomorrow, another weekend getaway *whistle*. I have been writing this week, till I have nothing more to update now. Hehe.. Saw the new show on the posters outside the cinema – ‘Shoot ‘em Up’. Not sure if I have spelled it correctly, wanted to watch that yesterday but the timing is too late. This seems like the only good show worth watching these days. We went to the arcade, couldn’t find my favorite ‘photohunt’ game, he ended up wasting $3 on Pooh watching. It’s such a con machine, the grabber is so loose that they couldn’t even hold the Pooh. Wanted to get one cute one wearing pyjamas in Mini Toons, he says get it another time. He didn’t like so many toys in the car (have had Foony there already, but I can’t get to hold it cos he laid his arms on it when he drives).
We wanted to get a globe (3D puzzles) to put into his display shelf, but he thinks it’s too expensive being such a small one costing $60+. I told him I’ll buy for him but he put it on hold. We get that the next time I guess. We still have another 3 x 500 pieces puzzles (lousy quality, just finished one) back home. We need to fix these before we will buy the original 1000 pieces Pooh. I guess another few months to go. We have been staying back home on Sunday just to do the puzzles while watching TV.
We went to the steamboat place for dinner, $15 nett each. It was really not that fantastic but I just love to drink soup. But seriously, I would rather buy my own steamboat with all the ingredients I like plus the packet chicken soup, MINUS the work and trouble. Hehe… actually, I didn’t mind the work also, like the feeling that everyone in the family or maybe just the 2 of us, get together to eat steamboat. I was bloated, I think I must have taken about 8 bowls of soup (Tom Yam & Chicken) and a glass of bland lime juice. We went to Carrefour to get a bottle of lime juice and 5 bottles of Vitagen (with Collegen) as I was extremely thirsty. But we only managed to finished the bottle of lime juice and each a bottle of Vitagen.
I drove back home yesterday, the second time I drive his car. I think I’m still not used to it, I’m dangerous and I have bad judgment. I didn’t brake when a car overtakes me and I swiftly changed my lane to the right (I did check) without slowing down. And there’s a time which I did not stop in time, I did slow down and brake hard after that when I realized it’s not going to stop in time. I keep too left, should have keep in the centre, but I had a bad gauge.
I can’t park for nuts and I can’t stop near to the kerb without hitting it, I had bad judgment, can’t gauge well if I’m able to squeeze through the allocated space. Women is already bad driver (I know, it’s not all) by nature and without training and familiarization with the car and road, it’s worse. I think I like much more practice than I expected myself.
We are going to go to the theme park and take the cable car this time to Genting. But still it really depends if we can win some money to cover the expenses before we have the mood to enjoy and shop. But I always enjoy our weekends get-away together. This time his colleague and his wife is joining, hope that’s not an issue.
I got a sms from a ‘tao’ friend when I work in P. He doesn’t usually contact me at all unless we meet at the pub or when he sends me home. A few times, I tried calling him (not for me but for boss), he didn’t bother to pick up, he then sms me to ask wad up. Another customer called him and he picked up the phone straight away. I find him a person too proud and weird. Why does he have to act this way, anyway not that I’m a stalker, my boss just want him to get something for her. Anyway, as I was saying, he asked for my email address, I think he have missed me slightly since he hasn’t been able to catch me in P. Well, it doesn’t matter to me anymore. I’m happily (??) attached and I do not want this unnecessary trouble now.
He has been very nice to me, but I’m training him to be better.. hehe… he wanted to get me a necklace, a mobile phone, pay for our trip to Australia etc. I don’t really need this monetary stuffs (but sometimes it’s nice to have them) as long as he’s nice to me. He gives in to me but he didn’t know when I’m angry, when to say what to make me happier, or even what to do when I’m angry.
Well, I do understand that he has not been attached ever since in army, about 20 years old. So it has been 5 years now, so got to teach him some people-people relationships and how to humor a girl when she’s angry etc.
We wanted to get a globe (3D puzzles) to put into his display shelf, but he thinks it’s too expensive being such a small one costing $60+. I told him I’ll buy for him but he put it on hold. We get that the next time I guess. We still have another 3 x 500 pieces puzzles (lousy quality, just finished one) back home. We need to fix these before we will buy the original 1000 pieces Pooh. I guess another few months to go. We have been staying back home on Sunday just to do the puzzles while watching TV.
We went to the steamboat place for dinner, $15 nett each. It was really not that fantastic but I just love to drink soup. But seriously, I would rather buy my own steamboat with all the ingredients I like plus the packet chicken soup, MINUS the work and trouble. Hehe… actually, I didn’t mind the work also, like the feeling that everyone in the family or maybe just the 2 of us, get together to eat steamboat. I was bloated, I think I must have taken about 8 bowls of soup (Tom Yam & Chicken) and a glass of bland lime juice. We went to Carrefour to get a bottle of lime juice and 5 bottles of Vitagen (with Collegen) as I was extremely thirsty. But we only managed to finished the bottle of lime juice and each a bottle of Vitagen.
I drove back home yesterday, the second time I drive his car. I think I’m still not used to it, I’m dangerous and I have bad judgment. I didn’t brake when a car overtakes me and I swiftly changed my lane to the right (I did check) without slowing down. And there’s a time which I did not stop in time, I did slow down and brake hard after that when I realized it’s not going to stop in time. I keep too left, should have keep in the centre, but I had a bad gauge.
I can’t park for nuts and I can’t stop near to the kerb without hitting it, I had bad judgment, can’t gauge well if I’m able to squeeze through the allocated space. Women is already bad driver (I know, it’s not all) by nature and without training and familiarization with the car and road, it’s worse. I think I like much more practice than I expected myself.
We are going to go to the theme park and take the cable car this time to Genting. But still it really depends if we can win some money to cover the expenses before we have the mood to enjoy and shop. But I always enjoy our weekends get-away together. This time his colleague and his wife is joining, hope that’s not an issue.
I got a sms from a ‘tao’ friend when I work in P. He doesn’t usually contact me at all unless we meet at the pub or when he sends me home. A few times, I tried calling him (not for me but for boss), he didn’t bother to pick up, he then sms me to ask wad up. Another customer called him and he picked up the phone straight away. I find him a person too proud and weird. Why does he have to act this way, anyway not that I’m a stalker, my boss just want him to get something for her. Anyway, as I was saying, he asked for my email address, I think he have missed me slightly since he hasn’t been able to catch me in P. Well, it doesn’t matter to me anymore. I’m happily (??) attached and I do not want this unnecessary trouble now.
He has been very nice to me, but I’m training him to be better.. hehe… he wanted to get me a necklace, a mobile phone, pay for our trip to Australia etc. I don’t really need this monetary stuffs (but sometimes it’s nice to have them) as long as he’s nice to me. He gives in to me but he didn’t know when I’m angry, when to say what to make me happier, or even what to do when I’m angry.
Well, I do understand that he has not been attached ever since in army, about 20 years old. So it has been 5 years now, so got to teach him some people-people relationships and how to humor a girl when she’s angry etc.
Wednesday, September 26, 2007
Just For Laugh
Signboard Outside A Prostitute's House:
Married MEN Not Allowed. We Serve The Needy, Not The Greedy...
Written On The T-Shirt Of A Girl:
SITUATORY WARNING:
Objects Inside The T-Shirt Are Larger Than They Appear From outside.
Lady: Is this my train?
Station Master : No, it belongs to the Railway Company.
Lady: Don't try to be funny. I mean to ask if I can take this train to New Delhi.
Station Master : No Madam, I'm afraid it's too heavy.
A drunkard was brought to court. Just before the trial there was a commotion in the gallery. The judge pounded the gravel on his table and shouted, "Order, order." The drunkard immediately responded, "Thank you, your honor, I'll have a scotch and soda."
Man Quits Smoking Because Of Will Power.
He Quits Drinking Because Of Will Power.
But He Quits Womanizing Because He Has The Will But No Power.
Customer : Waiter, do you serve crabs?
Waiter : Please sit down sir, we serve everyone.
Customer : Waiter, is this a lamb chop or pork chop?
Waiter : Can't you tell the difference by taste?
Customer : No, I can't.
Waiter : Then does it really matter ?
Little Susie came running into the house after school one day, shouting, "Daddy! Daddy! I got a 100 in school today!"
"That's great, Sweetheart," said her daddy. "Come in to the living room and tell me about it." "Well," began the confession, "I got 50 in spelling, 30 in math's and 20 in science."
Customer : Waiter, there's a dead beetle in my soup.
Waiter : Yes sir, they are not very good swimmers.
Customer : Waiter, there's a fly in my soup.
Waiter : That's all right sir, he won't drink much.
Waiter : I've stewed liver, boiled tongue and frog's leg.
Customer : Don't tell me your problems. Give the menu card.
Customer : Waiter, there's a fly swimming in my soup.
Waiter : So what do you expect me to do, call a lifeguard?
Customer : Waiter, what's the meaning of this fly in my tea up?
Waiter : I wouldn't know sir, I'm a waiter, not a fortune teller.
1st thief : Oh ! The police is here. Quick! Jump out of the window!
2nd thief : But this is the 13th floor.
1st thief : Hurry! this is no time for superstitions .
Man : How old is your father?
Boy : As old as me.
Man : How can that be?
Boy : He became a father only when I was born.
Customer : Waiter, this soup tastes funny.
Waiter : Funny? But then why aren't you laughing?
Teacher : Peter, why are you late for school again?
Peter: Well, Miss, I dreamed that I was playing football and the game went into extra time.
An absent-minded man went to see a psychiatrist.
'My trouble is,' he said, 'that I keep forgetting things.'
'How long has this been going on?' asked the psychiatrist.
' How long has what been going on?' said the man.
Girl : Do you love me?
Boy : Yes Dear.
Girl : Would you die for me?
Boy : No, mine is undying love.
Wife : Do you want dinner?
Husband : Sure, what are my choices?
Wife : Yes and no.
Customer : If I post this letter tonight, will it get to Delhi in two days time?
Post Master : Yes sir, it definitely will.
Customer : I bet you, it won't.
Post Master : Why not?
Customer : It's addressed to Mumbai.
Married MEN Not Allowed. We Serve The Needy, Not The Greedy...
Written On The T-Shirt Of A Girl:
SITUATORY WARNING:
Objects Inside The T-Shirt Are Larger Than They Appear From outside.
Lady: Is this my train?
Station Master : No, it belongs to the Railway Company.
Lady: Don't try to be funny. I mean to ask if I can take this train to New Delhi.
Station Master : No Madam, I'm afraid it's too heavy.
A drunkard was brought to court. Just before the trial there was a commotion in the gallery. The judge pounded the gravel on his table and shouted, "Order, order." The drunkard immediately responded, "Thank you, your honor, I'll have a scotch and soda."
Man Quits Smoking Because Of Will Power.
He Quits Drinking Because Of Will Power.
But He Quits Womanizing Because He Has The Will But No Power.
Customer : Waiter, do you serve crabs?
Waiter : Please sit down sir, we serve everyone.
Customer : Waiter, is this a lamb chop or pork chop?
Waiter : Can't you tell the difference by taste?
Customer : No, I can't.
Waiter : Then does it really matter ?
Little Susie came running into the house after school one day, shouting, "Daddy! Daddy! I got a 100 in school today!"
"That's great, Sweetheart," said her daddy. "Come in to the living room and tell me about it." "Well," began the confession, "I got 50 in spelling, 30 in math's and 20 in science."
Customer : Waiter, there's a dead beetle in my soup.
Waiter : Yes sir, they are not very good swimmers.
Customer : Waiter, there's a fly in my soup.
Waiter : That's all right sir, he won't drink much.
Waiter : I've stewed liver, boiled tongue and frog's leg.
Customer : Don't tell me your problems. Give the menu card.
Customer : Waiter, there's a fly swimming in my soup.
Waiter : So what do you expect me to do, call a lifeguard?
Customer : Waiter, what's the meaning of this fly in my tea up?
Waiter : I wouldn't know sir, I'm a waiter, not a fortune teller.
1st thief : Oh ! The police is here. Quick! Jump out of the window!
2nd thief : But this is the 13th floor.
1st thief : Hurry! this is no time for superstitions .
Man : How old is your father?
Boy : As old as me.
Man : How can that be?
Boy : He became a father only when I was born.
Customer : Waiter, this soup tastes funny.
Waiter : Funny? But then why aren't you laughing?
Teacher : Peter, why are you late for school again?
Peter: Well, Miss, I dreamed that I was playing football and the game went into extra time.
An absent-minded man went to see a psychiatrist.
'My trouble is,' he said, 'that I keep forgetting things.'
'How long has this been going on?' asked the psychiatrist.
' How long has what been going on?' said the man.
Girl : Do you love me?
Boy : Yes Dear.
Girl : Would you die for me?
Boy : No, mine is undying love.
Wife : Do you want dinner?
Husband : Sure, what are my choices?
Wife : Yes and no.
Customer : If I post this letter tonight, will it get to Delhi in two days time?
Post Master : Yes sir, it definitely will.
Customer : I bet you, it won't.
Post Master : Why not?
Customer : It's addressed to Mumbai.
Coffee or Cup?
Although i don't really like coffee, but this is really meaningful.
" The happiest people in the world are not those who have no problems,but those who learn to live with things that are less than perfect."
* A group of graduates, highly established in their careers, got together to visit their old university professor.* Conversation soon turned into complaints about stress in work and life.* Offering his guests coffee, the professor went to the kitchen and returned with a large pot of coffee and an assortment of cups -> porcelain, plastic, glass, crystal, some plain looking, some expensive, some exquisite - telling them to help themselves to the coffee.*
When all the students had a cup of coffee, the professor said: "If you noticed, all the nice looking expensive cups were taken up, leaving behind the simple and cheap ones.* While it is normal for you to want only the best for yourselves,that is the source of your problems and stress.* Be assured that the cup itself adds no quality to the coffee.* In most cases, it is just more expensive and in some cases even hides what we drink.* What all of you really wanted was coffee, not the cup, but you consciously went for the best cups... Then you began eyeing each other's cups.*
Now consider this:
- Life is the coffee; the jobs, money and position in society are the cups.
- They are just tools to hold and contain Life, and the type of cup we have does not define, nor change the qualityof Life we live.
- Sometimes, by concentrating on the cup, we fail to enjoy the coffee God has provided us.
Enjoy your coffee!."
* The happiest people don't have the best of everything.* They just make the best of everything."
1. Live simply.
2. Love generously.
3. Care deeply.
4. Speak kindly.
5. Leave the rest to God.
You are the miracle, my friend; Your life either shines a light OR casts a shadow! Shine a light & Enjoy the Coffee!!!
" The happiest people in the world are not those who have no problems,but those who learn to live with things that are less than perfect."
* A group of graduates, highly established in their careers, got together to visit their old university professor.* Conversation soon turned into complaints about stress in work and life.* Offering his guests coffee, the professor went to the kitchen and returned with a large pot of coffee and an assortment of cups -> porcelain, plastic, glass, crystal, some plain looking, some expensive, some exquisite - telling them to help themselves to the coffee.*
When all the students had a cup of coffee, the professor said: "If you noticed, all the nice looking expensive cups were taken up, leaving behind the simple and cheap ones.* While it is normal for you to want only the best for yourselves,that is the source of your problems and stress.* Be assured that the cup itself adds no quality to the coffee.* In most cases, it is just more expensive and in some cases even hides what we drink.* What all of you really wanted was coffee, not the cup, but you consciously went for the best cups... Then you began eyeing each other's cups.*
Now consider this:
- Life is the coffee; the jobs, money and position in society are the cups.
- They are just tools to hold and contain Life, and the type of cup we have does not define, nor change the qualityof Life we live.
- Sometimes, by concentrating on the cup, we fail to enjoy the coffee God has provided us.
Enjoy your coffee!."
* The happiest people don't have the best of everything.* They just make the best of everything."
1. Live simply.
2. Love generously.
3. Care deeply.
4. Speak kindly.
5. Leave the rest to God.
You are the miracle, my friend; Your life either shines a light OR casts a shadow! Shine a light & Enjoy the Coffee!!!
Monday, September 24, 2007
6th Week in Office
This is my sixth week here in my new company, 4 weeks on the floor, had like 12 files. Everyone is just so busy working on their currently load and the new system pre-work and I does feel bad that I do not have so much to do. I guess more files will come after my way soon, after the system is up and running.
Yeah! I’m going Genting again this weekend! I think this is the 4th time this year. Opps, I know, like I’m sure a gambler but no I don’t really gamble that much anyway, I’ll just stand around and watch Dear play, I’m only there to earn points. Hehe. At least this time his colleague is driving up, so we can save on the petrol.
Hmmm, should I say a business trip to KL again? It’s just not advisable to tell my parents that I’m going Genting or away and they are sure to know who I will be going with. I think I will pack my bag tomorrow and Dear to collect on Wednesday so that he can pack his stuffs in. I am still thinking if we should take the cable car and play the theme park. Cos only when you are winning, you will want to leave the Casino for some play and shopping, so we shall see how it goes.
We celebrated my brother’s birthday on Saturday, went to Vienna for buffet lunch. They serve international seafood and teppanyaki. We had the lunch for almost 3 hours, from 11.30 – 2.30pm. Mind us, we really can eat, don’t we. The food are quite good, they served a good range of seafood, prawns, crabs, scallop, oyster, baby lobster, abalone, crayfish, sushi, sashimi, soups (Buddha jumps over the wall, ginseng fish, crocodile and sharksfin), some dim sum, satay, teppanyaki, salads, cakes, ice-cream and juices. It’s quite good but buffet is always too much for us, except for my brother. It’s about $29.90+++ per person. I have asked Dear to buy the mooncake from Prima Deli before he comes to my house to pick us up. At least he has something with him when he comes visiting and not empty-handed.
We went to Ikea on Saturday to get his display shelf, which cost $259, plus $40 delivery and 5% assemble charges, turnout to be $311.95, which is not exactly cheap. It seems that he do not have extra cash for that cos he was talking about us getting our salary soon etc. so I decided to buy for him instead, since he bought us the couple watches the other day. I think my credit card will shot up this month.
I bought Raffles Hotel’s mooncake for Dear’s parent and his grandma. Actually, I also feel that there’s no need to buy for his grandma but because she is always in the shop and she often join us for dinner and spend quite a lot of time with his family, if I don’t buy for her, it’s quite embarrassing when I pass the family the mooncake. His grandma did mentioned that we are not married, so I do not need to buy these gifts and asked if my mum taught me to buy gifts. I guess I’m sensible enough at my age plus my godma did teach me these “chu si dai ren” relationships and also I’ve been working since very young, which adds on to my experience.
But I know there are certain things which I did not do it right from the start and it’s funny if I start doing this now. One will be inviting them to eat at the dinner table. I did not realized it the first time I ate with them cos everyone just eat when the food arrives, even Dear. So after a while when I realized, it’s already too late. Since then, I have not been inviting them to eat at the dinner table.
Dear do not know of all these, I guess he was not taught as well. Luckily, he does listens to me, so sometimes I did teach him what to do, or what to say and not say. There’s a time when his dad invite his relatives to eat at a restaurant for his birthday, he just took the dish when it’s his turn, he did not noticed that the dish is not sufficient for the guest and his dad turns out not eating that particular dish at all. He still argues that sure enough lah, everyone ask him to eat first etc. But he listens eventually, which is a good thing.
His parents are both busy working, on one really teach him on all these, everything he wants he gets, but at least he is still controllable, not joining the bad company and he listens. His niece is even worse, full of attitude, did not greet anyone or selective ones, do everything her own way, she will just cry, scream to get it her way. Her parents do not care at all, give in to her and this is bad, this will not help her but harm her eventually. Next time, she will grow up to be a demanding and unreasonable person and still thinks she is correct because no one corrected her when she did wrong when she’s young.
Well, this is their own family affairs which I do not think I should interfere. But I will make sure my children won’t be like this and make them aware this is wrong. His grandma was not any better, always thinks I’m the bad guy and nags a lot, regardless those were necessary or not. Hopefully it can only gets better and not worse.
Yeah! I’m going Genting again this weekend! I think this is the 4th time this year. Opps, I know, like I’m sure a gambler but no I don’t really gamble that much anyway, I’ll just stand around and watch Dear play, I’m only there to earn points. Hehe. At least this time his colleague is driving up, so we can save on the petrol.
Hmmm, should I say a business trip to KL again? It’s just not advisable to tell my parents that I’m going Genting or away and they are sure to know who I will be going with. I think I will pack my bag tomorrow and Dear to collect on Wednesday so that he can pack his stuffs in. I am still thinking if we should take the cable car and play the theme park. Cos only when you are winning, you will want to leave the Casino for some play and shopping, so we shall see how it goes.
We celebrated my brother’s birthday on Saturday, went to Vienna for buffet lunch. They serve international seafood and teppanyaki. We had the lunch for almost 3 hours, from 11.30 – 2.30pm. Mind us, we really can eat, don’t we. The food are quite good, they served a good range of seafood, prawns, crabs, scallop, oyster, baby lobster, abalone, crayfish, sushi, sashimi, soups (Buddha jumps over the wall, ginseng fish, crocodile and sharksfin), some dim sum, satay, teppanyaki, salads, cakes, ice-cream and juices. It’s quite good but buffet is always too much for us, except for my brother. It’s about $29.90+++ per person. I have asked Dear to buy the mooncake from Prima Deli before he comes to my house to pick us up. At least he has something with him when he comes visiting and not empty-handed.
We went to Ikea on Saturday to get his display shelf, which cost $259, plus $40 delivery and 5% assemble charges, turnout to be $311.95, which is not exactly cheap. It seems that he do not have extra cash for that cos he was talking about us getting our salary soon etc. so I decided to buy for him instead, since he bought us the couple watches the other day. I think my credit card will shot up this month.
I bought Raffles Hotel’s mooncake for Dear’s parent and his grandma. Actually, I also feel that there’s no need to buy for his grandma but because she is always in the shop and she often join us for dinner and spend quite a lot of time with his family, if I don’t buy for her, it’s quite embarrassing when I pass the family the mooncake. His grandma did mentioned that we are not married, so I do not need to buy these gifts and asked if my mum taught me to buy gifts. I guess I’m sensible enough at my age plus my godma did teach me these “chu si dai ren” relationships and also I’ve been working since very young, which adds on to my experience.
But I know there are certain things which I did not do it right from the start and it’s funny if I start doing this now. One will be inviting them to eat at the dinner table. I did not realized it the first time I ate with them cos everyone just eat when the food arrives, even Dear. So after a while when I realized, it’s already too late. Since then, I have not been inviting them to eat at the dinner table.
Dear do not know of all these, I guess he was not taught as well. Luckily, he does listens to me, so sometimes I did teach him what to do, or what to say and not say. There’s a time when his dad invite his relatives to eat at a restaurant for his birthday, he just took the dish when it’s his turn, he did not noticed that the dish is not sufficient for the guest and his dad turns out not eating that particular dish at all. He still argues that sure enough lah, everyone ask him to eat first etc. But he listens eventually, which is a good thing.
His parents are both busy working, on one really teach him on all these, everything he wants he gets, but at least he is still controllable, not joining the bad company and he listens. His niece is even worse, full of attitude, did not greet anyone or selective ones, do everything her own way, she will just cry, scream to get it her way. Her parents do not care at all, give in to her and this is bad, this will not help her but harm her eventually. Next time, she will grow up to be a demanding and unreasonable person and still thinks she is correct because no one corrected her when she did wrong when she’s young.
Well, this is their own family affairs which I do not think I should interfere. But I will make sure my children won’t be like this and make them aware this is wrong. His grandma was not any better, always thinks I’m the bad guy and nags a lot, regardless those were necessary or not. Hopefully it can only gets better and not worse.
Tuesday, September 18, 2007
My Poor Big Toe
A little kid stepped on my toe on Sunday, the impact is so great that my nail nearly came off. I didn’t know that the damage done by a kid can be so great. Anyway, what was worse was that the liquid keeps on flowing out from my big toe, it wasn’t bleeding. But the liquid turn yellowish today, I’m just afraid it will get infected. I try to exert all my strength on my right leg instead when I walk, but turn out that my right leg gets tired easily. Hopefully, tomorrow will be better otherwise Dear will bring me to the doctor already.
Dear was very nice, to fetch me from the office, willing to send me to work when I asked for it (which I did not effect that), offer to come and fetch me today after my facial and after his jog (I didn’t want to wait), and trying ways not to let me walk more by parking at the destination instead of parking nearby which we usually will.
Dear was very nice, to fetch me from the office, willing to send me to work when I asked for it (which I did not effect that), offer to come and fetch me today after my facial and after his jog (I didn’t want to wait), and trying ways not to let me walk more by parking at the destination instead of parking nearby which we usually will.
Friday, September 14, 2007
Updates for the week - 11 Sep 07
We had a bad fight but good talk about on Tuesday, didn’t sleep till 3am and him 4am. Actually, I didn’t want to ‘fight’ about it, it’s when he asked if I ok to let his colleague used my points to booked for a room in First World, Genting. I did felt that he didn’t asked for my opinion when he just tell me via sms earlier in the day that his colleague will be joining us to Genting and asked if he could use my points to secure for a room, but it didn’t occur to me that he did not even bother to ask me if he can come along. I started to blow up when he asked if I’m ok to let his colleague used my points after he had used it to book the room.
I asked if it’s too late to ask me after he had used them. And in the first place he should check if I’m even comfortable to ask his colleague to come along together with us and also his friends. He should at least ask for my opinion since we are both going together. This is a form of disrespect for the other party, similar to the case when he holds my hand while staring hard at other women. This is definitely a no no in a relationship isn’t it?
Then I brought up the fact that he did not take note of my likes and dislikes especially when I’m angry with him, what are the things that appease me easily and what are the things that I will fumed up even more when he says or does. As he will just say the wrong thing or did not say the right thing which kept us hanging. We will just remain silence for a long while and I’m still angry or angrier. This shows how much I mean to him and the importance in his heart. There are many times/ chances where we had quarrel and he is not able to do or say something quickly to appease me, hence I felt he did not bother to take note of me.
Things that he does when I’m angry, which is a no no:
Kept quiet
Apologize in an insincere or unapologetic manner (eg. Dun get angry leh. Sorry lo, I know it’s my fault, but dun get so angry la.)
Tickle me
Huh (eg. Expect me to say something.)
Talk about other irrelevant stuff or things to divert my attention (eg. Change topic.)
He keeps saying the things he promised me, he will definitely do it, but the fact is that there are some which he did not do. He said there are improvements and he’s trying. And I told him that saying that he dotes on me all the time does not mean anything if his actions don’t shows. He cried when he said he doesn’t know he has so many weaknesses. I told him this is not really weakness but shows more on how important I am to him. After the long 4 hours call, I decided that’s enough, I tired and decided to relent. He promised (again) he will change.
He came to pick me up the next day from my office with donuts which he queued for 15 minutes. I told him only when I’m angry then I will have such privileges huh? He said he will come and fetch me everyday if I want, just pay for the ERP charges only lo. But well, maybe I wouldn’t, it’s just so expensive to work in CBD area.
My day said that they felt earthquake in the evening. He thought his eyes are playing tricks on him and my bed said the bed is shaking. I was in the movie then, around 7plus but I didn’t feel anything.
My colleague felt a slight shake again on Thursday morning, I said I did not feel anything at all, think my skin are quite thick. My director then came up to us all and announced that the senior management have decided to closed the office for the rest of the afternoon. So I ended work at 12noon yesterday. Whoaa...
I went shopping happily but sadly alone, spent more than $200 within 2 hours in Wisma and walk around for the rest of the 4 hours while waiting for him. We walked around Orchard into the expensive shops, Tiffany and Co, he wanted to get a necklace for me, but I think it’s too expensive and the designs are not really nice or fantastic. I believe for the price that we are paying, we can get some diamond necklace at those jewellery shops with better designs and cheaper as well. After 7pm, we went to City Chain at Marina Square and got the Solvil Titus couple watches which we have been looking around for a nice one for quite some time. I offered to pay for half the price but he declined. Hehe, free gift... ;-)
Anyway, today is his dad’s birthday so we are having dinner together with some of his relatives as well. I didn’t get anything, not sure what to get, but I will get a cake for him. Hopefully, all turns out well.
I asked him to go for my brother’s birthday lunch with my family next Saturday as so far, he had not join my family for meals before and hardly even comes to my place. Hence this might be a good time to see each other, know of the existence. I asked my sister to check with my day if he can comes along, my dad agrees and asked my sister if he is those stable kind. Hehe.. Since he didn't have much encounter with him, didn't know how he is. I have told him to fetch us all there to the restaurant.
He had a drinking session with his colleague next Friday, I have asked if I could go to Plasma while he’s out. Hmmm, seems like he’s not willing to let me go, he might just asked me to go with his colleagues. We shall see.
I asked if it’s too late to ask me after he had used them. And in the first place he should check if I’m even comfortable to ask his colleague to come along together with us and also his friends. He should at least ask for my opinion since we are both going together. This is a form of disrespect for the other party, similar to the case when he holds my hand while staring hard at other women. This is definitely a no no in a relationship isn’t it?
Then I brought up the fact that he did not take note of my likes and dislikes especially when I’m angry with him, what are the things that appease me easily and what are the things that I will fumed up even more when he says or does. As he will just say the wrong thing or did not say the right thing which kept us hanging. We will just remain silence for a long while and I’m still angry or angrier. This shows how much I mean to him and the importance in his heart. There are many times/ chances where we had quarrel and he is not able to do or say something quickly to appease me, hence I felt he did not bother to take note of me.
Things that he does when I’m angry, which is a no no:
Kept quiet
Apologize in an insincere or unapologetic manner (eg. Dun get angry leh. Sorry lo, I know it’s my fault, but dun get so angry la.)
Tickle me
Huh (eg. Expect me to say something.)
Talk about other irrelevant stuff or things to divert my attention (eg. Change topic.)
He keeps saying the things he promised me, he will definitely do it, but the fact is that there are some which he did not do. He said there are improvements and he’s trying. And I told him that saying that he dotes on me all the time does not mean anything if his actions don’t shows. He cried when he said he doesn’t know he has so many weaknesses. I told him this is not really weakness but shows more on how important I am to him. After the long 4 hours call, I decided that’s enough, I tired and decided to relent. He promised (again) he will change.
He came to pick me up the next day from my office with donuts which he queued for 15 minutes. I told him only when I’m angry then I will have such privileges huh? He said he will come and fetch me everyday if I want, just pay for the ERP charges only lo. But well, maybe I wouldn’t, it’s just so expensive to work in CBD area.
My day said that they felt earthquake in the evening. He thought his eyes are playing tricks on him and my bed said the bed is shaking. I was in the movie then, around 7plus but I didn’t feel anything.
My colleague felt a slight shake again on Thursday morning, I said I did not feel anything at all, think my skin are quite thick. My director then came up to us all and announced that the senior management have decided to closed the office for the rest of the afternoon. So I ended work at 12noon yesterday. Whoaa...
I went shopping happily but sadly alone, spent more than $200 within 2 hours in Wisma and walk around for the rest of the 4 hours while waiting for him. We walked around Orchard into the expensive shops, Tiffany and Co, he wanted to get a necklace for me, but I think it’s too expensive and the designs are not really nice or fantastic. I believe for the price that we are paying, we can get some diamond necklace at those jewellery shops with better designs and cheaper as well. After 7pm, we went to City Chain at Marina Square and got the Solvil Titus couple watches which we have been looking around for a nice one for quite some time. I offered to pay for half the price but he declined. Hehe, free gift... ;-)
Anyway, today is his dad’s birthday so we are having dinner together with some of his relatives as well. I didn’t get anything, not sure what to get, but I will get a cake for him. Hopefully, all turns out well.
I asked him to go for my brother’s birthday lunch with my family next Saturday as so far, he had not join my family for meals before and hardly even comes to my place. Hence this might be a good time to see each other, know of the existence. I asked my sister to check with my day if he can comes along, my dad agrees and asked my sister if he is those stable kind. Hehe.. Since he didn't have much encounter with him, didn't know how he is. I have told him to fetch us all there to the restaurant.
He had a drinking session with his colleague next Friday, I have asked if I could go to Plasma while he’s out. Hmmm, seems like he’s not willing to let me go, he might just asked me to go with his colleagues. We shall see.
Wednesday, July 25, 2007
Things My Mum Taught Me
This is funny, got this from forwarded email as well.
1. My mother taught me TO APPRECIATE A JOB WELL DONE.
"If you're going to kill each other, do it outside. I just finished cleaning."
2. My mother taught me RELIGION.
"You better pray that will come out of the carpet."
3. My mother taught me about TIME TRAVEL.
"If you don't straighten up, I'm going to knock you into the middle of next week!"
4. My mother taught me LOGIC.
"Because I said so, that's why."
5. My mother taught me MORE LOGIC.
"If you fall out of that swing and break your neck, you're not going to the store with me."
6. My mother taught me FORESIGHT.
"Make sure you wear clean underwear, in case you're in an accident."
7. My mother taught me IRONY.
"Keep crying, and I'll give you something to cry about."
8. My mother taught me about the science of OSMOSIS.
"Shut your mouth and eat your supper."
9. My mother taught me about CONTORTIONISM.
"Will you look at that dirt on the back of your neck!"
10. My mother taught me about STAMINA.
"You'll sit there until all that spinach is gone."
11. My mother taught me about WEATHER.
"This room of yours looks as if a tornado went through it."
12. My mother taught me about HYPOCRISY.
"If I told you once, I've told you a million times. Don't exaggerate!"
13. My mother taught me the CIRCLE OF LIFE.
"I brought you into this world, and I can take you out."
14. My mother taught me about BEHAVIOUR MODIFICATION.
"Stop acting like your father!"
15. My mother taught me about ENVY.
"There are millions of less fortunate children in this world who don't have wonderful parents like you do."
16. My mother ! taught me about ANTICIPATION.
"Just wait until we get home."
17. My mother taught me about RECEIVING.
"You are going to get it when you get home!"
18. My mother taught me MEDICAL SCIENCE.
"If you don't stop crossing your eyes, They are going to freeze that way."
19. My mother taught me ESP.
"Put your sweater on; don't you think I know when you are cold?"
20. My mother taught me HUMOUR.
"When that lawn mower cuts off your toes, don't come running to me."
21. My mother taught me HOW TO BECOME AN ADULT.
"If you don't eat your vegetables, you'll never grow up."
22. My mother taught me GENETICS.
"You're just like your father."
23. My mother taught me about my ROOTS.
"Shut that door behind you. Do you think you were born in a barn?"
24. My mother taught me WISDOM.
"When you get to be my age, you'll understand."
25. And my favourite: my mother taught me about JUSTICE.
"One day you'll have kids, and I hope they turn out just like you!"
1. My mother taught me TO APPRECIATE A JOB WELL DONE.
"If you're going to kill each other, do it outside. I just finished cleaning."
2. My mother taught me RELIGION.
"You better pray that will come out of the carpet."
3. My mother taught me about TIME TRAVEL.
"If you don't straighten up, I'm going to knock you into the middle of next week!"
4. My mother taught me LOGIC.
"Because I said so, that's why."
5. My mother taught me MORE LOGIC.
"If you fall out of that swing and break your neck, you're not going to the store with me."
6. My mother taught me FORESIGHT.
"Make sure you wear clean underwear, in case you're in an accident."
7. My mother taught me IRONY.
"Keep crying, and I'll give you something to cry about."
8. My mother taught me about the science of OSMOSIS.
"Shut your mouth and eat your supper."
9. My mother taught me about CONTORTIONISM.
"Will you look at that dirt on the back of your neck!"
10. My mother taught me about STAMINA.
"You'll sit there until all that spinach is gone."
11. My mother taught me about WEATHER.
"This room of yours looks as if a tornado went through it."
12. My mother taught me about HYPOCRISY.
"If I told you once, I've told you a million times. Don't exaggerate!"
13. My mother taught me the CIRCLE OF LIFE.
"I brought you into this world, and I can take you out."
14. My mother taught me about BEHAVIOUR MODIFICATION.
"Stop acting like your father!"
15. My mother taught me about ENVY.
"There are millions of less fortunate children in this world who don't have wonderful parents like you do."
16. My mother ! taught me about ANTICIPATION.
"Just wait until we get home."
17. My mother taught me about RECEIVING.
"You are going to get it when you get home!"
18. My mother taught me MEDICAL SCIENCE.
"If you don't stop crossing your eyes, They are going to freeze that way."
19. My mother taught me ESP.
"Put your sweater on; don't you think I know when you are cold?"
20. My mother taught me HUMOUR.
"When that lawn mower cuts off your toes, don't come running to me."
21. My mother taught me HOW TO BECOME AN ADULT.
"If you don't eat your vegetables, you'll never grow up."
22. My mother taught me GENETICS.
"You're just like your father."
23. My mother taught me about my ROOTS.
"Shut that door behind you. Do you think you were born in a barn?"
24. My mother taught me WISDOM.
"When you get to be my age, you'll understand."
25. And my favourite: my mother taught me about JUSTICE.
"One day you'll have kids, and I hope they turn out just like you!"
For Guys Who Can Handle It
I have this from forwarded email and i thought it is interesting to share.
For all those men who say, Why buy a cow when you can get milk for free.
Here's an update for you:
Now days, 80% of women are against marriage, WHY?
Because women realize it's not worth buying an entire pig just to get a little sausage.
1. Men are like....Laxatives...... They irritate the crap out of you.
2. Men are like Bananas. The older they get, the less firm they are.
3. Men are like.....Weather.... Nothing can be done to change them.
4. Men are like....Blenders... You need One, but you're not quite sure why.
5. Men are like.....Chocolate Bars ... Sweet, smooth, & they usually head right for your hips.
6. Men are like ...Commercials....... You can't believe a word they say.
7. Men are like...... Department Stores..... Their clothes are always 1/2 off.
8. Men are like.....Government Bonds.... They take soooooooo long to mature.
9. Men are like.....Mascara. They usually run atthe first sign of emotion.
10. Men are like.... Popcorn. They satisfy you, but only for a little while.
11. Men are like.... Snowstorms.... You neverknow when they're coming, how many inches you'll get or how long it will last.
12. Men are like.... Lava Lamps.... Fun to look at, but not very bright.
13. Men are like Parking Spots. All the good ones are taken,the rest are handicapped.
Now send this to all the remarkable women you know, as well as to any understanding good-natured, fun kinda guys you might be lucky enough to know !!!!!!!!!!
For all those men who say, Why buy a cow when you can get milk for free.
Here's an update for you:
Now days, 80% of women are against marriage, WHY?
Because women realize it's not worth buying an entire pig just to get a little sausage.
1. Men are like....Laxatives...... They irritate the crap out of you.
2. Men are like Bananas. The older they get, the less firm they are.
3. Men are like.....Weather.... Nothing can be done to change them.
4. Men are like....Blenders... You need One, but you're not quite sure why.
5. Men are like.....Chocolate Bars ... Sweet, smooth, & they usually head right for your hips.
6. Men are like ...Commercials....... You can't believe a word they say.
7. Men are like...... Department Stores..... Their clothes are always 1/2 off.
8. Men are like.....Government Bonds.... They take soooooooo long to mature.
9. Men are like.....Mascara. They usually run atthe first sign of emotion.
10. Men are like.... Popcorn. They satisfy you, but only for a little while.
11. Men are like.... Snowstorms.... You neverknow when they're coming, how many inches you'll get or how long it will last.
12. Men are like.... Lava Lamps.... Fun to look at, but not very bright.
13. Men are like Parking Spots. All the good ones are taken,the rest are handicapped.
Now send this to all the remarkable women you know, as well as to any understanding good-natured, fun kinda guys you might be lucky enough to know !!!!!!!!!!
Thursday, July 19, 2007
Upeh Guling Waterfall_14 July 07
We went to Upeh Guling Waterfall via Endau-Rompin National Park, really like an adventure ride along the bumpy, sandy gound, full of holes. Although the ride from the start of the National Park to the place we stop to take the boat ride across the river and trek, is only 60km, but it takes about 1 half hours.
And after the whole trip which starts from 6am and ends at 11pm at night, the car is soooo dirty and full of scatches... Haiz... We washed the car and top up fuel before we depart back to Singapore, which is about 3am when we reached home. The black Subaru WRX hit the hole badly and have to stop since his black oil is dripping all the way. We waited for them for dinner for about 1-2 hrs. The Forester is not able to tow the car out as they do not how to use the tow facility. So he got to call for a tow which cost RM650 to tow out of the park to Kulang. So expensive. We left after dinner, followed 2 other cars out to JB.
Here are some of the pictures:
Monday, July 16, 2007
Same Thing Happenning Again
My parents especially my dad is doing it again. He is voicing his displeasure of me staying over at bf's place last weekend.. bla bla bla.... My mum and sister have started nagging at me... bla bla bla... I am already so old liao, can't i just have some freedom?? I guess i will only stay over on Saturday night, since dad is working on Sunday morning so should not notice my disappearing act, hopefully.
Some many unhappy things happening this week. Got angry with Dear on Monday and Tuesday consecutively. He keeps on hogging on the phone with SMS and calls, totally ignored me without explaining what he is doing. I still hinted that he is very busy but he ignored me... After much coaxing when i was about to relent, he said his favourite way, 'still angry ah, not angry already la' - answering himself, then why bother checking with me? & 'don't angry la, you not so petty one right' These makes me fume up further... He then asked what i want him to do to cool down, then he suggested dancing, so i said ok after a while. But he did not, he said he needed music.. etc.. bla bla bla... I then said to him that if he was to make me angry again he will have to dance at the Esplanade.
On Tuesday, he scolded me after i bite him, i said he's loud, he just reply loud meh, then he keeps quiet. I threw him hands away and he tried to hold back and open up my hands without apologizing or anything. So i remain quiet for the rest of the journey, he knew i were angry with him. After i alight at my house, he held me and stop me from walking. I just refused to talk about it and he said he hold my hand means asking me not to be angry, i said i dun understand body language.. etc... So he apologized and i relent as this is just a small thing, i just hate it when he ignore me or hope that my anger will go away without him doing anything. He asked me not to get angry with him easily. Well, i will try not to, of course... No, he did not dance, just held me close and sway at my lift lobby.. hehe..
Well i do know he is nice although some times he ignored me and sometimes he stared at girls. Oh he asked me yesterday whether i mind him looking at girls. I said see is ok, but not to stared which he usually do. He said no, he only glance, i questioned him back, you sure? He laughed... He then said ok ok, i will not stare. He practically accompanied me the whole of last and this week, except for 1 or 2 days. Even though, these 1 or 2 days, he did not go party or drinking with his friends, surprisingly he went home. Hmmm, not sure whether is it just this 2 weeks cos my bday is getting near??
Anyway, the other sad thing is that my San Gu Zhang committed suicide by jumping down his flat. He is a very nice person and left behind was his wife, my San Gu and their young daughter, only 5 or 6 years old. Heard that he is very close to another married woman staying at the same block and San Gu did reprimand him and hit him and i guess he felt guilty about the whole thing and also was under depression. Haiz, heard many of such stories before and never knew it will happened to my family. They are all nice people and really sad to hear the news. San Gu Zhang is the sole breadwinner as well... Life is definitely going to be hard for them.
Some many unhappy things happening this week. Got angry with Dear on Monday and Tuesday consecutively. He keeps on hogging on the phone with SMS and calls, totally ignored me without explaining what he is doing. I still hinted that he is very busy but he ignored me... After much coaxing when i was about to relent, he said his favourite way, 'still angry ah, not angry already la' - answering himself, then why bother checking with me? & 'don't angry la, you not so petty one right' These makes me fume up further... He then asked what i want him to do to cool down, then he suggested dancing, so i said ok after a while. But he did not, he said he needed music.. etc.. bla bla bla... I then said to him that if he was to make me angry again he will have to dance at the Esplanade.
On Tuesday, he scolded me after i bite him, i said he's loud, he just reply loud meh, then he keeps quiet. I threw him hands away and he tried to hold back and open up my hands without apologizing or anything. So i remain quiet for the rest of the journey, he knew i were angry with him. After i alight at my house, he held me and stop me from walking. I just refused to talk about it and he said he hold my hand means asking me not to be angry, i said i dun understand body language.. etc... So he apologized and i relent as this is just a small thing, i just hate it when he ignore me or hope that my anger will go away without him doing anything. He asked me not to get angry with him easily. Well, i will try not to, of course... No, he did not dance, just held me close and sway at my lift lobby.. hehe..
Well i do know he is nice although some times he ignored me and sometimes he stared at girls. Oh he asked me yesterday whether i mind him looking at girls. I said see is ok, but not to stared which he usually do. He said no, he only glance, i questioned him back, you sure? He laughed... He then said ok ok, i will not stare. He practically accompanied me the whole of last and this week, except for 1 or 2 days. Even though, these 1 or 2 days, he did not go party or drinking with his friends, surprisingly he went home. Hmmm, not sure whether is it just this 2 weeks cos my bday is getting near??
Anyway, the other sad thing is that my San Gu Zhang committed suicide by jumping down his flat. He is a very nice person and left behind was his wife, my San Gu and their young daughter, only 5 or 6 years old. Heard that he is very close to another married woman staying at the same block and San Gu did reprimand him and hit him and i guess he felt guilty about the whole thing and also was under depression. Haiz, heard many of such stories before and never knew it will happened to my family. They are all nice people and really sad to hear the news. San Gu Zhang is the sole breadwinner as well... Life is definitely going to be hard for them.
Thursday, June 28, 2007
1st Quarrel
Mon – I was supposed to meet Wei Wei for dinner but she said she need to accompany her bf as he just went to remove his wisdom tooth, so need to buy him dinner. Hence we postpone to Wed instead.
Then I arranged to meet Dear at Cityhall to buy the donut that is always in long queue. He is supposed to be on half day, to view cars and will return to Funan by evening. I reached there slightly later than arranged but he didn’t have to wait for me since he will walk down only after I sms him. Just as we wanted to queue behind, the staff told us that the queue has stopped, even if I continue to queue, I might or might not get the donut afterwards. So we decided not to and walk to one side to decide what to do next.
He asked me to eat and he will accompany me cos he’s going back to Funan after that and eat with his parents. I did mention to him beforehand that I do not want to go Funan, basically because I don’t want his parents to think that we accompany them for dinner for the sake of convenience, so that he can drive me home. It’s ok for him cos he’s the son, but they may think otherwise for me, but unfortunately, he does not understand.
So when he said that, I was shock and pissed. I asked “so you are asking me here just to queue for the donut and go home?” He said no, will accompany me to eat, but the thing is, you have decided that after buying the donut, accompany me for a short dinner, you are going to go to Funan, drive back together with your parents. Even though I told him that I can ride home myself, this is not what I have expected or he should at least tell me that he intended to do all these.
I feel that I have dropped my work, just to meet you, and now you are telling me that go eat myself and go home straight after myself as well. I’m so angry, find that if that’s the case I rather he doesn’t meet me at all.
He tried to ‘hong’ me and he still have the cheek to say don’t be angry over such small matters. I said that this is no small matter, so how will you react if I do the same to you? After some persuasion, I relent and we went for dinner. When we walked around, he can still say or make fun of the words I mentioned when I told him off and I think these pisses me further. The first time he mentioned, I told him joking, don’t copy my words and learn those bad things, the second time he said something again, I mentioned ok, keep following my words in a not-so-happy manner. He just brushed it off by saying ok la and look away to change the subject. All the more I’m agitated, so I turned quiet, said going home when asked what’s next. Upon reaching the Mrt, I told him I’ll go home myself and he can take the train here, he resisted and said he will walked to collect my bike. He seems to know that I’m angry but choose to act blur about it. I gave a one-word answer when he asked things and looked away whenever he looks at me. Finally, he asked whether I was angry with him after 30 mins, and I kept quiet which should be very obvious by now. He asked what am I angry about, I said I mentioned this earlier and you ignored. I will only mention one time. So again he promised this will not happened again and ‘hong’ me and persuaded me not to ride home.
When we chatted later at night, he pisses me off yet again by repeating my angry lines again. I was pissed, guess he knew but he brush off and we put down the phone. I was sad cos I hate it when people brush off and hang up to hope that tomorrow I will forget about it.
Tue – I did not chat much or happily or forward email to him as I’m still sore over last night. He, as usual, pretends or assumes everything is alright. It’s until in the evening that I relent when he said he’s having a headache.
Wed – Wei wei put me aeroplane again, so he decided to meet me after much deliberation. I purposely do not want to ask whether he wanted to meet me up as I do not want any unhappiness to happen again especially if we are meeting up often.
He said my angry line again and I warned him “can you don’t do that again?” he knew I’m getting angry if he’s going to start again. This is not the first time today that he do that, just that I do not want to say anything. So I will need to send verbal warning before the volcano explodes. So he understands and he stops.
If he is ever going to do that again, I am going to give him the final warning and asked how many times I need to tell him and this will be really the final warning before I walk away and I’m serious!
Then I arranged to meet Dear at Cityhall to buy the donut that is always in long queue. He is supposed to be on half day, to view cars and will return to Funan by evening. I reached there slightly later than arranged but he didn’t have to wait for me since he will walk down only after I sms him. Just as we wanted to queue behind, the staff told us that the queue has stopped, even if I continue to queue, I might or might not get the donut afterwards. So we decided not to and walk to one side to decide what to do next.
He asked me to eat and he will accompany me cos he’s going back to Funan after that and eat with his parents. I did mention to him beforehand that I do not want to go Funan, basically because I don’t want his parents to think that we accompany them for dinner for the sake of convenience, so that he can drive me home. It’s ok for him cos he’s the son, but they may think otherwise for me, but unfortunately, he does not understand.
So when he said that, I was shock and pissed. I asked “so you are asking me here just to queue for the donut and go home?” He said no, will accompany me to eat, but the thing is, you have decided that after buying the donut, accompany me for a short dinner, you are going to go to Funan, drive back together with your parents. Even though I told him that I can ride home myself, this is not what I have expected or he should at least tell me that he intended to do all these.
I feel that I have dropped my work, just to meet you, and now you are telling me that go eat myself and go home straight after myself as well. I’m so angry, find that if that’s the case I rather he doesn’t meet me at all.
He tried to ‘hong’ me and he still have the cheek to say don’t be angry over such small matters. I said that this is no small matter, so how will you react if I do the same to you? After some persuasion, I relent and we went for dinner. When we walked around, he can still say or make fun of the words I mentioned when I told him off and I think these pisses me further. The first time he mentioned, I told him joking, don’t copy my words and learn those bad things, the second time he said something again, I mentioned ok, keep following my words in a not-so-happy manner. He just brushed it off by saying ok la and look away to change the subject. All the more I’m agitated, so I turned quiet, said going home when asked what’s next. Upon reaching the Mrt, I told him I’ll go home myself and he can take the train here, he resisted and said he will walked to collect my bike. He seems to know that I’m angry but choose to act blur about it. I gave a one-word answer when he asked things and looked away whenever he looks at me. Finally, he asked whether I was angry with him after 30 mins, and I kept quiet which should be very obvious by now. He asked what am I angry about, I said I mentioned this earlier and you ignored. I will only mention one time. So again he promised this will not happened again and ‘hong’ me and persuaded me not to ride home.
When we chatted later at night, he pisses me off yet again by repeating my angry lines again. I was pissed, guess he knew but he brush off and we put down the phone. I was sad cos I hate it when people brush off and hang up to hope that tomorrow I will forget about it.
Tue – I did not chat much or happily or forward email to him as I’m still sore over last night. He, as usual, pretends or assumes everything is alright. It’s until in the evening that I relent when he said he’s having a headache.
Wed – Wei wei put me aeroplane again, so he decided to meet me after much deliberation. I purposely do not want to ask whether he wanted to meet me up as I do not want any unhappiness to happen again especially if we are meeting up often.
He said my angry line again and I warned him “can you don’t do that again?” he knew I’m getting angry if he’s going to start again. This is not the first time today that he do that, just that I do not want to say anything. So I will need to send verbal warning before the volcano explodes. So he understands and he stops.
If he is ever going to do that again, I am going to give him the final warning and asked how many times I need to tell him and this will be really the final warning before I walk away and I’m serious!
Tuesday, June 26, 2007
How a Girl rates a Man?
Hehe, i got this email from Dear, which is interesting and rather true.. haha...
In the world of romance, one single rule applies to men:
Make the woman happy. Do something she likes, and you get points. Do something she dislikes and points are subtracted. You don't get any points for doing something she expects. Sorry, that's the way the game is played.
Here is a guide to the point system:
SIMPLE DUTIES
You make the bed (+1)
You make the bed, but forget the decorative pillow (0)
You throw the bedspread over rumpled sheets (-1)
You go out to buy her what she wants (+5) In the rain (+8) But return with> Beer (-5)
You check out a suspicious noise at night (0)
You check out a suspicious noise, and it is nothing (0)
You check out a suspicious noise and it is something (+5)
You pummel it with iron rod (+10)
It's her pet (-10)
SOCIAL ENGAGEMENTS
You stay by her side the entire party (0)
You stay by her side for a while, then leave to chat with a college buddy (-2)
Named Lolita (-4) Lolita is a dancer (-6) Lolita is single and is really beautiful (-80)
HER BIRTHDAY
You forget her birthday (-50000)
You take her out to dinner (0)
You take her out to dinner and it's not a sports bar (+1)
Okay, it's a sports bar (-2)
And it's all-you-can-eat night (-3)
It's a sports bar, it's all-you-can-eat night, and your face is painted the Colours of your favourite team (-10)
A NIGHT OUT
You take her to a movie (+2)
You take her to a movie she likes (+4)
You take her to a movie you hate (+6)
You take her to a movie you like (-2)
It's called 'DeathCop' (-3)
You lied and said it was a foreign film about orphans (-15)
ENJOY THE 'BIG' QUESTION
She asks, "Do I look fat?" (-5) [Yes, you LOSE points no matter WHAT]
You hesitate in responding (-10)
You reply, "Where?" (-35)
Any other response (-20)
COMMUNICATION
When she wants to talk about a problem , you listen, displaying what looks like a concerned expression (0)
You listen, for over 30 minutes (+50)
You listen for more than 30 minutes without looking at the TV (+500)
She realizes this is because you have fallen asleep (-10 ,000)
Now what chance do you have???
In the world of romance, one single rule applies to men:
Make the woman happy. Do something she likes, and you get points. Do something she dislikes and points are subtracted. You don't get any points for doing something she expects. Sorry, that's the way the game is played.
Here is a guide to the point system:
SIMPLE DUTIES
You make the bed (+1)
You make the bed, but forget the decorative pillow (0)
You throw the bedspread over rumpled sheets (-1)
You go out to buy her what she wants (+5) In the rain (+8) But return with> Beer (-5)
You check out a suspicious noise at night (0)
You check out a suspicious noise, and it is nothing (0)
You check out a suspicious noise and it is something (+5)
You pummel it with iron rod (+10)
It's her pet (-10)
SOCIAL ENGAGEMENTS
You stay by her side the entire party (0)
You stay by her side for a while, then leave to chat with a college buddy (-2)
Named Lolita (-4) Lolita is a dancer (-6) Lolita is single and is really beautiful (-80)
HER BIRTHDAY
You forget her birthday (-50000)
You take her out to dinner (0)
You take her out to dinner and it's not a sports bar (+1)
Okay, it's a sports bar (-2)
And it's all-you-can-eat night (-3)
It's a sports bar, it's all-you-can-eat night, and your face is painted the Colours of your favourite team (-10)
A NIGHT OUT
You take her to a movie (+2)
You take her to a movie she likes (+4)
You take her to a movie you hate (+6)
You take her to a movie you like (-2)
It's called 'DeathCop' (-3)
You lied and said it was a foreign film about orphans (-15)
ENJOY THE 'BIG' QUESTION
She asks, "Do I look fat?" (-5) [Yes, you LOSE points no matter WHAT]
You hesitate in responding (-10)
You reply, "Where?" (-35)
Any other response (-20)
COMMUNICATION
When she wants to talk about a problem , you listen, displaying what looks like a concerned expression (0)
You listen, for over 30 minutes (+50)
You listen for more than 30 minutes without looking at the TV (+500)
She realizes this is because you have fallen asleep (-10 ,000)
Now what chance do you have???
Tuesday, June 19, 2007
Updates
Wonder how Tit is getting along with her newly marriage life... Haha.. Should be sweet, I can tell that Chris is quite thoughtful and on their day, he ensures that Tit do not trip on her grown and help her in moving around with the 'clumsy' outfit.. Haha.. Knowing that she is not very feminine her usual self, hence it's amazing that she walk properly on her slim heels. Haha.. I'm not trying to make fun of her, but well, we are good friends...
She's second, from my class in poly, to get married. I remembered whenever we have gathering we will speculate how will be the first to get married and we all guess it will be Kelly since she always has loads of boyfriends, flings and affairs... Still can't believe she is married. On the other hand, we are already 25, not young anymore. Furthermore Chris is already 32? I always think that being with a older man will be a better choice as they will really dote on me since they are so much older and he are more mature in their thinking. But unfortunately, I'm always attracted to younger man or those with the same age as me, seems to be always the case for me. Luckily, my dear is still quite mature in his thinking.
I think he is too honest. He actually told his mum that I'm working at a pub when his mum asked about me on Saturday. I was like... Hmmm, do you need to tell your mum that??? His mum was asking me last week at dinner:
- are you short of $$$
- do your parents allow you to work there?
- how long have i work there?
I explained to her clearly and assuring (i hope) that the place is not a sleazy place and my lady boss, being a woman, take care of us. And i work previously because i am studying so trying to repay my loan as well.
I hope he did not tell them that i ride too. He said that he told them because she asked where am I the week before last Saturday, when he had dinner with them. As usually I will be with him during the weekends. I’m not trying to tell him to lie, but certain things I thought may be better off not to say.
Wed – He actually took bus with me from Cityhall back to my place and took the mrt back home. I didn’t want to go Funan, as I do not want his parents to think that we went over for the dinner and transport as he will usually drives me home (with his dad’s car) after dinner with his parents, or drive his parents home before sending me home. Either way is fine with me, however it is so awkward so I don’t make much conversation in the car or at dinner. Sometimes his mum speaks to me, and I will just reply her and that’s it, full stop. But it just seems to me that the purpose we went down Funan is for the car, for the convenience or for the dinner. I’m not sure, just don’t feel good.
Initially, he keeps asking me where is my bike which I already told him I’ve left it at the office since he asked me to, as I got pissed and stared at him. he keep asking, I know, because he might wants to meet his friends later on for drinks. He knew I was pissed but I guess he thought I was angry because he said I keep laughing earlier. So I mentioned to him that if I don’t laugh, then I don’t smile and look stern all the time, if this is what he wants. So he said, no no no.. blah blah blah… I was pissed because he’s the one that asked me not to ride and he’s also the one who wants to meet me since my dinner was postpone. And now, he keep asking where’s my bike, which I know the reason for asking is that he wants me to go home myself, and that’s because he might wants to meet his friends. Then in the first place, don’t meet me!!!
Sat – we kind of quarreled again. It’s words again… he said tonight you will know when I teased him, so I said don’t go Bukit Batok tonight lo, he then said don’t go don’t go lo. So I said fine, then I won’t go. And he just smile and look away. I repeated a few times, he also didn’t say anything. We joined his parents for dinner and we went straight to his place. I told him that I’m going back home, he asked why, I said I’ve told you earlier on. He then said don’t want la, blah blah blah… if he tried to resolve this earlier, it wouldn’t be like this. So after much persuasion, I still keep saying I’m going back, so he asked me to wait for him to change. I warned him that I’ll stay this time (he still thought I’m joking with him all the while cos maybe I don’t look fierce or anything since his parents are at home) but the next time, I will really go back home. I’m pissed because he assume that I will stay, that’s why he didn’t make any efforts to even say anything when I say I’m not staying.
Not sure whether I’m petty or what but I just hate that. But after saying that I went to bathe and I just react normally already. I hope he do not have the impression that I’m easily appeased, I just do not want a quarrel since this is not something serious.
Well, hope tomorrow will be better.
She's second, from my class in poly, to get married. I remembered whenever we have gathering we will speculate how will be the first to get married and we all guess it will be Kelly since she always has loads of boyfriends, flings and affairs... Still can't believe she is married. On the other hand, we are already 25, not young anymore. Furthermore Chris is already 32? I always think that being with a older man will be a better choice as they will really dote on me since they are so much older and he are more mature in their thinking. But unfortunately, I'm always attracted to younger man or those with the same age as me, seems to be always the case for me. Luckily, my dear is still quite mature in his thinking.
I think he is too honest. He actually told his mum that I'm working at a pub when his mum asked about me on Saturday. I was like... Hmmm, do you need to tell your mum that??? His mum was asking me last week at dinner:
- are you short of $$$
- do your parents allow you to work there?
- how long have i work there?
I explained to her clearly and assuring (i hope) that the place is not a sleazy place and my lady boss, being a woman, take care of us. And i work previously because i am studying so trying to repay my loan as well.
I hope he did not tell them that i ride too. He said that he told them because she asked where am I the week before last Saturday, when he had dinner with them. As usually I will be with him during the weekends. I’m not trying to tell him to lie, but certain things I thought may be better off not to say.
Wed – He actually took bus with me from Cityhall back to my place and took the mrt back home. I didn’t want to go Funan, as I do not want his parents to think that we went over for the dinner and transport as he will usually drives me home (with his dad’s car) after dinner with his parents, or drive his parents home before sending me home. Either way is fine with me, however it is so awkward so I don’t make much conversation in the car or at dinner. Sometimes his mum speaks to me, and I will just reply her and that’s it, full stop. But it just seems to me that the purpose we went down Funan is for the car, for the convenience or for the dinner. I’m not sure, just don’t feel good.
Initially, he keeps asking me where is my bike which I already told him I’ve left it at the office since he asked me to, as I got pissed and stared at him. he keep asking, I know, because he might wants to meet his friends later on for drinks. He knew I was pissed but I guess he thought I was angry because he said I keep laughing earlier. So I mentioned to him that if I don’t laugh, then I don’t smile and look stern all the time, if this is what he wants. So he said, no no no.. blah blah blah… I was pissed because he’s the one that asked me not to ride and he’s also the one who wants to meet me since my dinner was postpone. And now, he keep asking where’s my bike, which I know the reason for asking is that he wants me to go home myself, and that’s because he might wants to meet his friends. Then in the first place, don’t meet me!!!
Sat – we kind of quarreled again. It’s words again… he said tonight you will know when I teased him, so I said don’t go Bukit Batok tonight lo, he then said don’t go don’t go lo. So I said fine, then I won’t go. And he just smile and look away. I repeated a few times, he also didn’t say anything. We joined his parents for dinner and we went straight to his place. I told him that I’m going back home, he asked why, I said I’ve told you earlier on. He then said don’t want la, blah blah blah… if he tried to resolve this earlier, it wouldn’t be like this. So after much persuasion, I still keep saying I’m going back, so he asked me to wait for him to change. I warned him that I’ll stay this time (he still thought I’m joking with him all the while cos maybe I don’t look fierce or anything since his parents are at home) but the next time, I will really go back home. I’m pissed because he assume that I will stay, that’s why he didn’t make any efforts to even say anything when I say I’m not staying.
Not sure whether I’m petty or what but I just hate that. But after saying that I went to bathe and I just react normally already. I hope he do not have the impression that I’m easily appeased, I just do not want a quarrel since this is not something serious.
Well, hope tomorrow will be better.
Friday, June 1, 2007
Weekend Getaways
Been planning for weekend getaway. Going to Desaru in July, wanted to have it in June but unfortunately it’s a school holidays, the dates we wanted has been fully booked. Since Clara wanted to get away for weekend as well, so I decided to ask her along… I guess for beach resort, it will be the more the merrier…
We have all wanted to go Redang for the longest time, and Clara took the liberty to find out on the packages as she has been talking about going for so long. So Dear and I decided to go also.. Not sure whether he will be happy to go with them, but I know he will be awkward as he don’t know them. Will accompany him so that he won’t feel too bored, am just afraid that he don’t like sea sports and ended up not doing anything… hence thought if Clara and Teng are going, at least there will be company for those sports activities.
Mon – we kind of quarreled because he mentioned yet again that the price to Rendang, we can take plane go Taiwan already. So I said ok lor, you go your Taiwan see Taimei then I go Rendang myself… He said Ok, then afterwards said no lah he would want to go with me. I told him seriously, if he didn’t want to go, I can go on my own but he keep insisting that he wanted to go also. Then I shoot him back, asking him then why does he always raise the price issue that is comparable to fly by air. But I keep telling him it’s for the experience…
After this topic I’m quite sick of the whole trip already, and a little pissed off with him. He started to change topic, I still answered him but in a not-so-in-the-mood tone. He said he can wait for me after my call (had late calls, 3 in total till 9 plus 10pm), but I told him not to wait, it’s too late.
Tue – called him as usual for his morning call, put down without speaking much. He sent a lovely email about love, which outlines that only time can understand how great love is… very sweet email, but I can’t be bothered to reply, which I normally would drop him a line or two. He called me after lunch (our usual routine nowadays) and we have a short chat. He said he will wait for me at night, I still insist no as it’s quite late. He then said “no matter how late, I will still wait for you, just like what I had told you before”.
I briefly recalled he did mention this before, but I did not expect him to emphasize that again. I think he is trying to make amendments of what he said yesterday, even though he did not apologize or anything. Not that I want him to apologize since he is not at fault, but I find he may be someone who will not apologize if he’s at fault. But this is not a good example to take to generalize that he won’t apologize since he’s not at fault, the only thing is that he keeps mentioning about the price as compared to the air fare which pisses me off.
Anyway, after he said that, my heart melted again. I think I have forgiven him. I said that I will always remember this, so he will have to always wait for me no matter how late. I’m really touched!
Wed – he sent me to Charcoal restaurant at Tresaury building, next to Funan (operated by Shatec student) after work, just to send me there, and intend to pick me up after my dinner with Eve, Juliet, Ween and Clara. He does not have any plans so he just hang around Bugis. Luckily he met his friends, so join them for lunch. I still think he is trying to make amendments on Monday issue.
The food was not bad, quite nice, really makes me think of the time when we invent food in Saffron kitchen (During my Temasek training). Those times were so fun, the cooking and eating… the creamy soup, the sauces and garnishes.. etc…
Anyway, Eve and Juliet were so interested who was the guy waiting for me and whether the guy was dating me… haha… I can see them keep peeping into the car’s window…
Thur – I went medicure and pedicure with Tit and Mel in preparation for the wedding, left for highlight at Cut & Curl at Jubilee shortly as they closes early yesterday at 5pm. Since dear is not ready yet, I went to my Godmum’s place to accompany her for a while. She asked whether the one fetching me is my boyfriend and I said yes. I think she’s also consoled that finally I have gotten over Dan and get on with a new guy. Will bring him along for lunches or dinner the next time.
We went to ROM to park the car there, walked over to Funan (stressful time again) and we settled down at Raffles City food court for dinner. We went over to Esplanade, had a slow walk (our usual walk after dinner, but always the same few places… haha.. boring..) we settled down at a spot and he started asking whether I remember when and where we get together and said that tomorrow, which is today, is our 1 month anniversary. I said I know. But unfortunately we are unable to stay out late as I need to wake up very early tomorrow (Tit’s wedding). He suggested that we stayed at Rasa Sentosa next month (since we are not able to do so this month) and we can go to the beach and stay overnight there. So sweet of him to think of all these…
He started to think of what is the first movie that we watched together after seeing the questions that I am going to ask the groom on Saturday. Haha… as if he is getting married… Opps…
Fri - Not sure whether I will need to prepare any gift for him… not sure whether he is preparing anything… hopefully he did not because I did not prepare anything as well..
Our plan was to just have dinner and a movie – Shrek 3. We are both leaving early to maximize our time together… Hopefully this honeymoon period will not only last for a month or a short time…
I really look forward to spending many more 1 months with him, know him better and hopefully I can also (or he can train to) control/ maintain my temper now. He has been great!
We have all wanted to go Redang for the longest time, and Clara took the liberty to find out on the packages as she has been talking about going for so long. So Dear and I decided to go also.. Not sure whether he will be happy to go with them, but I know he will be awkward as he don’t know them. Will accompany him so that he won’t feel too bored, am just afraid that he don’t like sea sports and ended up not doing anything… hence thought if Clara and Teng are going, at least there will be company for those sports activities.
Mon – we kind of quarreled because he mentioned yet again that the price to Rendang, we can take plane go Taiwan already. So I said ok lor, you go your Taiwan see Taimei then I go Rendang myself… He said Ok, then afterwards said no lah he would want to go with me. I told him seriously, if he didn’t want to go, I can go on my own but he keep insisting that he wanted to go also. Then I shoot him back, asking him then why does he always raise the price issue that is comparable to fly by air. But I keep telling him it’s for the experience…
After this topic I’m quite sick of the whole trip already, and a little pissed off with him. He started to change topic, I still answered him but in a not-so-in-the-mood tone. He said he can wait for me after my call (had late calls, 3 in total till 9 plus 10pm), but I told him not to wait, it’s too late.
Tue – called him as usual for his morning call, put down without speaking much. He sent a lovely email about love, which outlines that only time can understand how great love is… very sweet email, but I can’t be bothered to reply, which I normally would drop him a line or two. He called me after lunch (our usual routine nowadays) and we have a short chat. He said he will wait for me at night, I still insist no as it’s quite late. He then said “no matter how late, I will still wait for you, just like what I had told you before”.
I briefly recalled he did mention this before, but I did not expect him to emphasize that again. I think he is trying to make amendments of what he said yesterday, even though he did not apologize or anything. Not that I want him to apologize since he is not at fault, but I find he may be someone who will not apologize if he’s at fault. But this is not a good example to take to generalize that he won’t apologize since he’s not at fault, the only thing is that he keeps mentioning about the price as compared to the air fare which pisses me off.
Anyway, after he said that, my heart melted again. I think I have forgiven him. I said that I will always remember this, so he will have to always wait for me no matter how late. I’m really touched!
Wed – he sent me to Charcoal restaurant at Tresaury building, next to Funan (operated by Shatec student) after work, just to send me there, and intend to pick me up after my dinner with Eve, Juliet, Ween and Clara. He does not have any plans so he just hang around Bugis. Luckily he met his friends, so join them for lunch. I still think he is trying to make amendments on Monday issue.
The food was not bad, quite nice, really makes me think of the time when we invent food in Saffron kitchen (During my Temasek training). Those times were so fun, the cooking and eating… the creamy soup, the sauces and garnishes.. etc…
Anyway, Eve and Juliet were so interested who was the guy waiting for me and whether the guy was dating me… haha… I can see them keep peeping into the car’s window…
Thur – I went medicure and pedicure with Tit and Mel in preparation for the wedding, left for highlight at Cut & Curl at Jubilee shortly as they closes early yesterday at 5pm. Since dear is not ready yet, I went to my Godmum’s place to accompany her for a while. She asked whether the one fetching me is my boyfriend and I said yes. I think she’s also consoled that finally I have gotten over Dan and get on with a new guy. Will bring him along for lunches or dinner the next time.
We went to ROM to park the car there, walked over to Funan (stressful time again) and we settled down at Raffles City food court for dinner. We went over to Esplanade, had a slow walk (our usual walk after dinner, but always the same few places… haha.. boring..) we settled down at a spot and he started asking whether I remember when and where we get together and said that tomorrow, which is today, is our 1 month anniversary. I said I know. But unfortunately we are unable to stay out late as I need to wake up very early tomorrow (Tit’s wedding). He suggested that we stayed at Rasa Sentosa next month (since we are not able to do so this month) and we can go to the beach and stay overnight there. So sweet of him to think of all these…
He started to think of what is the first movie that we watched together after seeing the questions that I am going to ask the groom on Saturday. Haha… as if he is getting married… Opps…
Fri - Not sure whether I will need to prepare any gift for him… not sure whether he is preparing anything… hopefully he did not because I did not prepare anything as well..
Our plan was to just have dinner and a movie – Shrek 3. We are both leaving early to maximize our time together… Hopefully this honeymoon period will not only last for a month or a short time…
I really look forward to spending many more 1 months with him, know him better and hopefully I can also (or he can train to) control/ maintain my temper now. He has been great!
Monday, May 28, 2007
Tit's Wedding
Oh no, has been eating lunches and dinners these weeks… Not sure whether I’ll fit in my white dress this Saturday for Tit’s wedding. I tried going to the gym these 2 weeks, hopefully it works. Haha… Haven’t gotten a dress for dinner though, Shanghai theme, don’t think I would want to wear cheongsam, so unlike me. I may just wear my existing one if I really can’t find one that I like. Anyway I do have a few dresses that I have not worn before.
Although I have been an ‘Ah Yi’ for quite a number of times, but this is the first time helping out for close friends. Tit is my poly closest mate, she’s loud in class, kind, helpful, a little blur at times, blunt at times and she’s like the class’ newspaper… haha… we find out the class happenings (e.g. who’s getting attached to who, who’s getting married, who change her/his boyfriend/girlfriend? Etc.) and updates from her basically, especially now that we are all busy with our own life, work and family. She plans for most of our poly gathering (H04) but guess she do not have much time to do all these now, since she’s studying now and also she’s getting married!! May need to do some household chores and accompany her family now.. hehe… Wonder when will the young one be ready???
She’s really busy these few months, preparation for the wedding, the dinner, photos, programme for the night, etc. I will be helping out with the co-ordination during the dinner, so don’t think I can really enjoy the wonderful food. Luckily Dear is not going, otherwise he may be bored to death, furthermore he don’t know my friends at all, may be awkward for him… Opps, sorry, cannot accompany him on Saturday… Feel bad sometimes that I can’t accompany him on one of the days, especially Friday. And he still has to wait for me till late to fetch me home. Been planning to quit Plasma soon, hopefully will be able to speak to her about this soon, will be hard… ;-(
I really treasured what I have now, glad that i found him!! So far, he has been very good to me, waiting for me after work, regardless it’s 7pm, 8pm, 9pm or 3am… so touched by his actions. He just asked me today to open a joint account when we start the topic on internet banking. Hmmm, thought usually it’s the girl that will initiate this, so that both can save for the future or for wedding… OMG…. Haha… don’t think so lah, we just started, and it’s really a bit too early… as I’m the more passive kind, will only do certain things when you tell me or prompt me to, otherwise I’m more laid back on all these, especially after Dan and a year of single lifestyle, I’m very much on my own, being independent. Hence I find it very encouraging and great that he’s so pro-active, take initiatives on such issues, surprising for man who will do this.
I’m afraid at the same time that I will learn to dependent on him as time goes by and if one day… (touchwood), then I will have to stand on my own feet again and learn to be independent. He tries to meet me whenever he can, as long as there are no classes. Or unless I have very late calls or something on, so we are practically meeting on most days. Since he is so willing to meet me, how do I have the heart to say no to him… Of course I really love to see him, but I’m just afraid of being too dependent on him.
Got a stress session again on Saturday when we Funan after my session with the Sinsei. I thought he was going to rubbed my ankle real hard and I was preparing to scream or bit someone.. haha.. But no, he said that he don’t ‘tui’, he only adjust the bone structure back to position. He said once we trip or fall, the bone will be out of alignment, and when people stands too long or wear heels for a long time, the weight may exert pressure on the positioning of the bone and over time, it will affect the rest of the bone (hip, shoulder etc..). he pull my legs, cracked my knee, hip, back, shoulder and neck altogether. Woa, it’s shiok… I feel lighter, although I can’t that he has pulled my legs. He said that’s the reason for my stiff neck too, sitting in front of the computer too much and stress. So I guess may need to go back for some cracking up session once in a while, maybe every 3 months.
As I was saying, the stressful session of meeting up with his parents and Grandma… he left me sitting at the store to watch TV with his Grandma and she started chatting with me. She seems friendlier than his mum. His mum is a little quiet, and I do not know what to talk about, didn’t really know her interest, so can’t really say much. And I’m afraid of his mum stare (not really that kind of stare but the look seems fierce). Then his Grandma told me that he is very filial to her, asked what dishes do I know how to cook etc.. like an interview session for match-making… OMG… We went for dinner together at the Hong Kong Street Restaurant, Cantonese style, not sure whether they are trying to see whether I can fit to their eating habits… instead of me getting food for his Grandma, his Grandma is taking food onto my plate… So pai sei… Still not very comfortable with his parents and family yet… got to build up the rapport again…
We went to watch “Next” yesterday with his friends, although this is not the first time that I am going out with him and his friends, but this is the first time after we are together that we are going out together as a couple. So his friends were like making fun, teasing us etc… They wanted to go Zouk on Wednesday, he sounds kind of interested then he said out loud, “no, cannot go already.” His friends were like laughing at him, oh yah or somebody now cannot go liao. But I didn’t say anything, I just keep quiet… I said to him in the car that if he wants, he can still go. Anyway I have dinner appointment that night, but he still says no. I didn’t want to restrict him, if he wants to go, don’t want him to turn out like Dan.
Although I have been an ‘Ah Yi’ for quite a number of times, but this is the first time helping out for close friends. Tit is my poly closest mate, she’s loud in class, kind, helpful, a little blur at times, blunt at times and she’s like the class’ newspaper… haha… we find out the class happenings (e.g. who’s getting attached to who, who’s getting married, who change her/his boyfriend/girlfriend? Etc.) and updates from her basically, especially now that we are all busy with our own life, work and family. She plans for most of our poly gathering (H04) but guess she do not have much time to do all these now, since she’s studying now and also she’s getting married!! May need to do some household chores and accompany her family now.. hehe… Wonder when will the young one be ready???
She’s really busy these few months, preparation for the wedding, the dinner, photos, programme for the night, etc. I will be helping out with the co-ordination during the dinner, so don’t think I can really enjoy the wonderful food. Luckily Dear is not going, otherwise he may be bored to death, furthermore he don’t know my friends at all, may be awkward for him… Opps, sorry, cannot accompany him on Saturday… Feel bad sometimes that I can’t accompany him on one of the days, especially Friday. And he still has to wait for me till late to fetch me home. Been planning to quit Plasma soon, hopefully will be able to speak to her about this soon, will be hard… ;-(
I really treasured what I have now, glad that i found him!! So far, he has been very good to me, waiting for me after work, regardless it’s 7pm, 8pm, 9pm or 3am… so touched by his actions. He just asked me today to open a joint account when we start the topic on internet banking. Hmmm, thought usually it’s the girl that will initiate this, so that both can save for the future or for wedding… OMG…. Haha… don’t think so lah, we just started, and it’s really a bit too early… as I’m the more passive kind, will only do certain things when you tell me or prompt me to, otherwise I’m more laid back on all these, especially after Dan and a year of single lifestyle, I’m very much on my own, being independent. Hence I find it very encouraging and great that he’s so pro-active, take initiatives on such issues, surprising for man who will do this.
I’m afraid at the same time that I will learn to dependent on him as time goes by and if one day… (touchwood), then I will have to stand on my own feet again and learn to be independent. He tries to meet me whenever he can, as long as there are no classes. Or unless I have very late calls or something on, so we are practically meeting on most days. Since he is so willing to meet me, how do I have the heart to say no to him… Of course I really love to see him, but I’m just afraid of being too dependent on him.
Got a stress session again on Saturday when we Funan after my session with the Sinsei. I thought he was going to rubbed my ankle real hard and I was preparing to scream or bit someone.. haha.. But no, he said that he don’t ‘tui’, he only adjust the bone structure back to position. He said once we trip or fall, the bone will be out of alignment, and when people stands too long or wear heels for a long time, the weight may exert pressure on the positioning of the bone and over time, it will affect the rest of the bone (hip, shoulder etc..). he pull my legs, cracked my knee, hip, back, shoulder and neck altogether. Woa, it’s shiok… I feel lighter, although I can’t that he has pulled my legs. He said that’s the reason for my stiff neck too, sitting in front of the computer too much and stress. So I guess may need to go back for some cracking up session once in a while, maybe every 3 months.
As I was saying, the stressful session of meeting up with his parents and Grandma… he left me sitting at the store to watch TV with his Grandma and she started chatting with me. She seems friendlier than his mum. His mum is a little quiet, and I do not know what to talk about, didn’t really know her interest, so can’t really say much. And I’m afraid of his mum stare (not really that kind of stare but the look seems fierce). Then his Grandma told me that he is very filial to her, asked what dishes do I know how to cook etc.. like an interview session for match-making… OMG… We went for dinner together at the Hong Kong Street Restaurant, Cantonese style, not sure whether they are trying to see whether I can fit to their eating habits… instead of me getting food for his Grandma, his Grandma is taking food onto my plate… So pai sei… Still not very comfortable with his parents and family yet… got to build up the rapport again…
We went to watch “Next” yesterday with his friends, although this is not the first time that I am going out with him and his friends, but this is the first time after we are together that we are going out together as a couple. So his friends were like making fun, teasing us etc… They wanted to go Zouk on Wednesday, he sounds kind of interested then he said out loud, “no, cannot go already.” His friends were like laughing at him, oh yah or somebody now cannot go liao. But I didn’t say anything, I just keep quiet… I said to him in the car that if he wants, he can still go. Anyway I have dinner appointment that night, but he still says no. I didn’t want to restrict him, if he wants to go, don’t want him to turn out like Dan.
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